My Story

The chronicle of the journey from infertility, to miscarriage, to finally raising twin girls born in June 2012.

Tuesday, September 13, 2011

Elizabeth Pantley Redemption

Ok, you're forgiven.

For those of you just joining us, I got upset with Elizabeth Pantley a couple of days ago because of this.

Before writing that blog post, I shot off a one line email to her asking how a miscarriage mama/infertility blogger ended up on her mailing list.  I didn't expect a response, but she did contact me and apologized.  It's clear that she wrote the email herself and that she does sincerely apologize.  I have to give props when someone does what they can to face up to a mistake, especially when that mistake is out here in cyberspace, the easiest place in the world to just ignore it.

It's an interesting story about how I ended up on her mailing list though.  Her assistant got my address from the blogroll on .  What makes that interesting is that I signed up for that blogroll shortly before losing my girls.  And after I lost them, I contacted the owner of that blog saying that I'm no longer a Mom of Multiples and since her blog is about raising multiples, I probably didn't fit in anymore.  I didn't want happy multiples moms blindly clicking on that link and being faced with the horror I went through in losing my girls.  We talked about it and she said that my story was just as valid and valuable as those who went on to have surviving multiples and if it's ok with me, she would like to keep my blog on her list.  She said that people need to hear how things don't always work out just as much as they need to see the happy stories.

It actually meant a lot to me that she wanted to keep my blog there.  In a time of failure, she told me that she still found me valuable.  I'm not sure there's much else that a miscarriage mama wants to hear so much as hearing that they are valuable.


  1. That is very nice :) Nice of her to ask for forgiveness and nice of you to come clean on your blog.

    Interesting about her getting your address from a multiples blogroll. I didn't know they were allowed to give up that information to soliciters. I am glad that the blog roll administrator kept your blog up, they should, but they shouldn't give/sell the email addresses of participants.

    And I'm sorry, but I had to throw the "No Cry Sleep Solution" across the room. Unless you have two sets of arms at all times, there is going to be some crying going on vwhen you have multiples. :)

  2. You know what? All of this is just fantastic. I mean, it's obvious how valuable your experiences are to others, but I know how much it means to be validated. Plus - you educated a person who is "supposed" to be helping others. All in all, I think that's a good day! :-)


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