My Story

The chronicle of the journey from infertility, to miscarriage, to finally raising twin girls born in June 2012.

Friday, August 5, 2011

Need opinions

I've had an idea of something I might want to make and sell in my pottery shop but I'm not sure if it would seem like I'm trying to profiteer on pain.

After losing my girls, I thought about getting a tattoo that symbolized them somehow.  Just something to make them permanent.  They were too temporary, I wanted their existence to be forever somehow.

Instead of a tattoo, I changed my pottery signature to integrate representations of them.  Pottery shards last for thousands of years, my skin will only exist for another 100 or so.

So this is the design of my signature, my original initials with 2 female symbols integrated into them.

I know that I like that it's going out there in the universe and that symbol will exist long after I'm gone. 

So I've wondered if other miscarriage mamas might like to have a symbol stone made.  Initials, dates, something simple that can be impressed into clay and then fired.  Probably not footprints because I can't carve those into clay and they are too detailed.  But ya know, something.  Stones can be buried, or I can make them something a little more interesting to display on a mantle or something.  Possibly even miniature urns for ashes.

So my question is this - if I were to offer something like this for sale in my pottery shop, custom orders of course, is that something that might be wanted or would it seem insensitive, or rude somehow?


  1. Love! I would love to have one for my Aven, who was born too soon at 20 weeks 9 months ago.

  2. I think it is a beautiful sentiment and a wonderful idea.

  3. I think it is a good idea. You only need to search "miscarriage" on Etsy to see that others do similar things... (make "regular" jewelry and then jewelry for losses.)
    Some put them in a separate category on their etsy page. Some add a reason why in their description. I searched and searched for something back in January-so I saw probably every store back then with "something" and nothing appeared rude.

    (I am not clear if your shop is online or an actual one. In either case, it won't be rude. It is actually a very good idea)

  4. I LOVE the idea. A tile, urn, or figurine of some sort that could go in a memorial garden or under a tree would be something I would buy in a heartbeat. There are tiles, including memorial ones, in museums from Rome. I don't think it's tacky at all.

    There is a lot of memorial jewelry out there, but I'm not a big jewelry wearer.

  5. I also love the idea. I've bought something to commemorate each of my losses, but I rarely wear them anymore. I would love a piece of pottery that recognized my babies, too.


  6. Darn internet ate my comment.

    I think it's a beautiful idea, and one that is caring and loving to offer from someone who knows what people are going through. Not tacky in the slightest.


  7. I think it's a great idea, especially if you show your example of creating a symbol that represents them. I love it. It could potentially also be a piece of jewelry, a small ceramic amulet, or something like that. Also, it doesn't have to be only for people who have been through a miscarriage, it sounds like an excellent memorial idea for anyone suffering a loss.

    Also I love that you've incorporated them into your signature. Not only will they continue to be in your life, but they will be in others' lives as well :)


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