Another year that I'll be glad to leave behind.
Started the year out just coming out of the shock of losing the girls and having it hit me full force. Wow, I'm in a much better place for this New Years!
The first few months were spent in desperate flailing, trying to figure out how to put one foot in front of the other on the path of life. I was trying to find a job (never really happened), trying to figure out my next fertility treatment, it was just awful.
In spring, I got all introspective, writing all sorts of posts about my philosophies on various life subjects like how to communicate with your partner, how we measure pain, crap like that. I guess we'll call that my pretentious phase.
Summer was all about failed FET's and massive dieting. The IVF clinic had me on a roller coaster of false starts and arbitrary rules. For a while there, every moment of every day was all about how to get the maximum energy from the minimum amount of food. Calculating maximum protein per calorie.
And then the fall came. One last full blown IVF attempt. The do or die. And I did.
Entering winter, I spent every day sitting in wet panties and going to the bathroom every 20 minutes to check for blood. And it was often there. Spent some time in the ER, had wayyyyy more ultrasounds than a person is entitled to, and just sat around, very tense all the time.
And now I enter the new year. As I enter 2012, I also enter my second trimester with what I was mourning a year ago back in my belly. It's been almost 3 weeks since my last bleed, and I got a brief moment of baby heartbeat on the fetal doppler yesterday. I'm finally starting to chill out and actually live every day instead of simply endure it.
Dear 2012,
You have the potential of being the best year of my life. The year that I look back on and smile about when I'm on my deathbed. The year that songs are sung about. Your cousins 2010 and 2011 did some nasty things to me. The kind of things that ensure job security for therapists.
But generations have been anticipating you, ever since the Mayans made up that calendar. Now I know that you've been raised to believe you're a bad seed, the end of the world, and all that, but I know you can rise above those expectations. Just look at how your uncle, Y2K, turned out! People talked smack about him for years too and he turned out to be really swell.
So you can do it. You can be marvelous, heralded for generations as the year that the infertiles gave birth. I know you can. I'm counting on you.
Sincerely,
Knocked up, not out
Saturday, December 31, 2011
Thursday, December 29, 2011
It stinks in here
Ugh, I've got robo-nose to the extreme. I pretty much always have a pretty good sense of smell, but when pregnant, I can't get away from it.
We have a cat food dish within 10 feet of where I sit for most of the day. And unfortunately, it has to stay where it is.
You see, it has a prescription kibble in it for the one cat that gets a lot of UTI's (which he currently has one and has been peeing in new and interesting places, but that's another story). It's ok if most of the other cats get into it, except for the one that's diabetic. She has the opposite bladder problems so if she ate this food, it would make her sick.
So for over a year, we've been trying to figure out how to keep the food available to one, but not the other. So we finally figured it out last week. The UTI kitty likes to sit up on one of the cat trees. Well the diabetic cat can hardly get her ass as high as the couch. She just doesn't climb at all. So we put the UTI food up in the cat tree where he now goes to eat, which is in the corner of my office so I get to smell it all day.
And I don't like air fresheners. I'll use one if I have to, but I'd rather not. It's just covering one icky smell with another.
But a couple of years ago, I made these garlic dishes. Small dishes and the bottom is serrated. Apparently you're supposed to grate the garlic on the serrated part and then put in oil so it becomes a dip for bread or something.
They've been sitting in a drawer untested all this time.
I grabbed an orange from the fridge, and swirled it around in the dish, and I now have the lovely scent of orange zest sitting on my desk! And whenever the kibble starts to win, I just zest a different spot. And when I run out of that, I cut up the orange.
I'm hoping to get 2-3 days of fresh smell out of this. I'm feeling kind of brilliant and smug at the moment.
We have a cat food dish within 10 feet of where I sit for most of the day. And unfortunately, it has to stay where it is.
You see, it has a prescription kibble in it for the one cat that gets a lot of UTI's (which he currently has one and has been peeing in new and interesting places, but that's another story). It's ok if most of the other cats get into it, except for the one that's diabetic. She has the opposite bladder problems so if she ate this food, it would make her sick.
So for over a year, we've been trying to figure out how to keep the food available to one, but not the other. So we finally figured it out last week. The UTI kitty likes to sit up on one of the cat trees. Well the diabetic cat can hardly get her ass as high as the couch. She just doesn't climb at all. So we put the UTI food up in the cat tree where he now goes to eat, which is in the corner of my office so I get to smell it all day.
And I don't like air fresheners. I'll use one if I have to, but I'd rather not. It's just covering one icky smell with another.
But a couple of years ago, I made these garlic dishes. Small dishes and the bottom is serrated. Apparently you're supposed to grate the garlic on the serrated part and then put in oil so it becomes a dip for bread or something.
They've been sitting in a drawer untested all this time.
I grabbed an orange from the fridge, and swirled it around in the dish, and I now have the lovely scent of orange zest sitting on my desk! And whenever the kibble starts to win, I just zest a different spot. And when I run out of that, I cut up the orange.
I'm hoping to get 2-3 days of fresh smell out of this. I'm feeling kind of brilliant and smug at the moment.
Wednesday, December 28, 2011
Twitter account
I just opened a new twitter account specifically for this blog. I sometimes want to post random little quips or thoughts that don't warrant a full blog post, so that's where those go.
I feel so cheesy and needy saying this but, please follow me!
I feel so cheesy and needy saying this but, please follow me!
Tuesday, December 27, 2011
Sonoline B Doppler
I got a new toy today.
I've really been debating whether or not I should get a fetal doppler. On the one hand, hearing heartbeats can be very reassuring on a bad day. On the other hand, user error and my own fat belly might make a heartbeat difficult to detect, thus turning a perfectly fine day into a panic attack.
I finally decided to buy it for a couple of reasons.
1) My paypal account is where some of my pottery sales money goes and if it's under $100, I use it for play money. If it gets over $100, I cash it out and pay a bill with it, you know, all responsible like. Well, my paypal account had about $55 in it, and this thing cost $53, soooooooo......
2) I've been so afraid to buy anything maternity related because of the fear that in the few days it would take to arrive, I might no longer need it, and its arrival would be a trigger.
So I bit the bullet, bought this thing, and I consider it a toy rather than a medical diagnostic device. If it works, cool, if it doesn't, meh, maybe it will when I'm a week farther along or so.
We retrieved it from the mail and I had it unwrapped and directions open within about 30 seconds. I glanced over them real quick then handed them to K to look over while I hit the restroom.
In accordance to the advice I've read from others, I laid flat on the floor and we used plenty of the included goo. I told K to go ahead and press in pretty hard, cuz it's got a lot of belly to get through to try to find a very small noisemaker. In fact, ok, I wasn't going to do this so soon, but you guys need an honest picture of what this machine was up against. So please don't get disgusted but here is the belly pic we took on the day of 10 weeks.
And no, that is not a normal outfit for me. It's a skin tight tank top, designed to be an undergarment, over a pair of leggings that I would never wear in public. The half sweater thing I thought was cute for almost a whole day when I bought it and haven't worn it since. I decided to make it a part of my belly pic uniform because the tank top was skin tight enough to display some nipple action and while you're all invited to descriptions of my private parts, I think visual displays kind of cross the line. I mean really, no one wants to see that.
But now you know what that 3mhz probe was working through.
We located my own heartbeat several times, in several locations. So put your mind at rest everyone, my heart is in fact beating today.
I took the wand and tried down around the crotch hairline, mostly on the left. I'm not sure why I thought the left was the better side. Maybe because that's where Dr. C found one of my girls when we tried this in his office at 10 weeks during my last pregnancy. I also wanted to show K that he could press much harder than he thought he could. After 3 or 4 minutes, I gave up and handed it back to him.
After another 4-5 minutes, and several locations of my own heartbeat later, we finally heart the faint sound of a much faster heartbeat. It was located about an inch above the hairline, and significantly to the right of center. It was faint, probably because the kids are kind of deep in there, but it was certainly a fetal heart rate. The machine clocked it at 157bpm which is about right. Honestly, I'm going to take the numbers of the machine with a grain of salt, so as long as it's within about 15 of what I expect it to be, it's all good.
We called it a victory and were done for the day. We figured that finding 1 was good enough, trying to find a second one and making sure we weren't just getting the first one over and over again, well that was a bit too much to ask. I'm quite satisfied with our results for the day!
I don't know how often I'll use this, but I feel better knowing that it's in the house. If I find myself on that line of being scared, but not scared enough to think I have a valid reason to rush to a doctors office or ER, I have a tool at home that has the potential of putting my mind at ease. I'm getting over the fear of missed miscarriage. I think I'm far enough along at this point that if something were to happen, there would be physical indicators to let me know.
And as I start reaching weeks 15 and up, but before I'm far enough along to feel them move consistently, I can see this being a total sanity saver. For right now, it's a toy.
I've really been debating whether or not I should get a fetal doppler. On the one hand, hearing heartbeats can be very reassuring on a bad day. On the other hand, user error and my own fat belly might make a heartbeat difficult to detect, thus turning a perfectly fine day into a panic attack.
I finally decided to buy it for a couple of reasons.
1) My paypal account is where some of my pottery sales money goes and if it's under $100, I use it for play money. If it gets over $100, I cash it out and pay a bill with it, you know, all responsible like. Well, my paypal account had about $55 in it, and this thing cost $53, soooooooo......
2) I've been so afraid to buy anything maternity related because of the fear that in the few days it would take to arrive, I might no longer need it, and its arrival would be a trigger.
So I bit the bullet, bought this thing, and I consider it a toy rather than a medical diagnostic device. If it works, cool, if it doesn't, meh, maybe it will when I'm a week farther along or so.
We retrieved it from the mail and I had it unwrapped and directions open within about 30 seconds. I glanced over them real quick then handed them to K to look over while I hit the restroom.
In accordance to the advice I've read from others, I laid flat on the floor and we used plenty of the included goo. I told K to go ahead and press in pretty hard, cuz it's got a lot of belly to get through to try to find a very small noisemaker. In fact, ok, I wasn't going to do this so soon, but you guys need an honest picture of what this machine was up against. So please don't get disgusted but here is the belly pic we took on the day of 10 weeks.
And no, that is not a normal outfit for me. It's a skin tight tank top, designed to be an undergarment, over a pair of leggings that I would never wear in public. The half sweater thing I thought was cute for almost a whole day when I bought it and haven't worn it since. I decided to make it a part of my belly pic uniform because the tank top was skin tight enough to display some nipple action and while you're all invited to descriptions of my private parts, I think visual displays kind of cross the line. I mean really, no one wants to see that.
But now you know what that 3mhz probe was working through.
We located my own heartbeat several times, in several locations. So put your mind at rest everyone, my heart is in fact beating today.
I took the wand and tried down around the crotch hairline, mostly on the left. I'm not sure why I thought the left was the better side. Maybe because that's where Dr. C found one of my girls when we tried this in his office at 10 weeks during my last pregnancy. I also wanted to show K that he could press much harder than he thought he could. After 3 or 4 minutes, I gave up and handed it back to him.
After another 4-5 minutes, and several locations of my own heartbeat later, we finally heart the faint sound of a much faster heartbeat. It was located about an inch above the hairline, and significantly to the right of center. It was faint, probably because the kids are kind of deep in there, but it was certainly a fetal heart rate. The machine clocked it at 157bpm which is about right. Honestly, I'm going to take the numbers of the machine with a grain of salt, so as long as it's within about 15 of what I expect it to be, it's all good.
We called it a victory and were done for the day. We figured that finding 1 was good enough, trying to find a second one and making sure we weren't just getting the first one over and over again, well that was a bit too much to ask. I'm quite satisfied with our results for the day!
I don't know how often I'll use this, but I feel better knowing that it's in the house. If I find myself on that line of being scared, but not scared enough to think I have a valid reason to rush to a doctors office or ER, I have a tool at home that has the potential of putting my mind at ease. I'm getting over the fear of missed miscarriage. I think I'm far enough along at this point that if something were to happen, there would be physical indicators to let me know.
And as I start reaching weeks 15 and up, but before I'm far enough along to feel them move consistently, I can see this being a total sanity saver. For right now, it's a toy.
Monday, December 26, 2011
I did stuff today! Now I need a nap
Pregnancy status - 11w4d and all's well. It's been 2 weeks since my last bleed, a new record.
Ok, seriously now, when I do I get some energy back? When I say I can't do anything, I mean I can't do ANYTHING. I'm just too friggin tired!
I slept through most of yesterday, went to bed at a decent hour, got a full nights sleep (though not as deeply as when not pregnant), and I haven't been asked to expend any energy of any kind. So I should be fully prepared to actually get off my butt.
K spent a good deal of time cleaning the kitchen today. We have a huge kitchen counter that tends to become the junk platform of the house. It's conveniently located near the front door so everything we walk in with ends up on that counter. Groceries, toiletries that made it into the house but not yet into the bathroom, my purse, random things that we use on a daily basis and just set down there for lack of anywhere else to put it. K did a fabulous job of clearing it, finding a place for all of that stuff to go and then actually wiping it down.
My job was to go through the pile of accumulated snacks that he put into a corner and throw out anything I won't actually end up eating. So I did that, and extended my work to a kitchen cabinet that tends to end up packed with crap. I weeded out everything that was past it's "best by" date (which was the vast majority of the stuff) and threw out anything that I tried for a snack but didn't end up liking. That cabinet is practically empty now.
So in this burst of accomplishing something energy, I decided to glaze a few more test cups to go in my next kiln firing. That basically means just standing at a sink, painting cups.
That's it guys. That's all I've done. On my feet for maybe 45 minutes to an hour. And when I decided that I needed to sit down again, I had to eat something right away because I was almost shaking from feeling weak and like I had over exerted myself. I can only guess that I hadn't eaten much protein yet in the day and it was that absence that I was feeling and kind of reeling from. I've since had some leftover ham and cheesy potatoes from Christmas Eve dinner at my parents and am now feeling like my normal, fat, lazy, sitting self. I keep intending to spend a few hours out in the pottery studio, and I keep just not doing it. And that's a fun activity.
Ya know, I'm pretty lazy in real life as it is. Honestly, I didn't think a person could get much lazier than me. But this feeling of hardly being able to move from my seat and getting tired after functioning on my feet for 30 minutes is just obnoxious! At least I've gotten enough energy that I'm capable of staying awake for a full day, so that's an improvement. But wow, I could really use another energy boost in general, cuz being both this tired and yet awake for this many hours per day = boredom central!
Ok, seriously now, when I do I get some energy back? When I say I can't do anything, I mean I can't do ANYTHING. I'm just too friggin tired!
I slept through most of yesterday, went to bed at a decent hour, got a full nights sleep (though not as deeply as when not pregnant), and I haven't been asked to expend any energy of any kind. So I should be fully prepared to actually get off my butt.
K spent a good deal of time cleaning the kitchen today. We have a huge kitchen counter that tends to become the junk platform of the house. It's conveniently located near the front door so everything we walk in with ends up on that counter. Groceries, toiletries that made it into the house but not yet into the bathroom, my purse, random things that we use on a daily basis and just set down there for lack of anywhere else to put it. K did a fabulous job of clearing it, finding a place for all of that stuff to go and then actually wiping it down.
My job was to go through the pile of accumulated snacks that he put into a corner and throw out anything I won't actually end up eating. So I did that, and extended my work to a kitchen cabinet that tends to end up packed with crap. I weeded out everything that was past it's "best by" date (which was the vast majority of the stuff) and threw out anything that I tried for a snack but didn't end up liking. That cabinet is practically empty now.
So in this burst of accomplishing something energy, I decided to glaze a few more test cups to go in my next kiln firing. That basically means just standing at a sink, painting cups.
That's it guys. That's all I've done. On my feet for maybe 45 minutes to an hour. And when I decided that I needed to sit down again, I had to eat something right away because I was almost shaking from feeling weak and like I had over exerted myself. I can only guess that I hadn't eaten much protein yet in the day and it was that absence that I was feeling and kind of reeling from. I've since had some leftover ham and cheesy potatoes from Christmas Eve dinner at my parents and am now feeling like my normal, fat, lazy, sitting self. I keep intending to spend a few hours out in the pottery studio, and I keep just not doing it. And that's a fun activity.
Ya know, I'm pretty lazy in real life as it is. Honestly, I didn't think a person could get much lazier than me. But this feeling of hardly being able to move from my seat and getting tired after functioning on my feet for 30 minutes is just obnoxious! At least I've gotten enough energy that I'm capable of staying awake for a full day, so that's an improvement. But wow, I could really use another energy boost in general, cuz being both this tired and yet awake for this many hours per day = boredom central!
Christmas report
Christmas yesterday wasn't all that exciting. As many of you know, I'm a complete scrooge and I kind of don't see the point of the holiday when there are no kids around. I tend to be reminded of what I've lost over the year, and now that I have a genuine anniversary to remember just days before Christmas, I just don't enjoy the style of the festivities. Parties yes, but red and green decorations with lights and Santa, no.
I don't understand having to buy presents for the other adults in your life. If someone wants something, don't they generally just buy it for themselves? And if you see something you think someone else should have, don't you normally just buy one for them and give it to them for the genuine joy of giving, no matter what time of year it is? K works in retail (though not a store that has anything good for gifts) so he basically gets to watch society get more and more frazzled and stressed out as the month goes on. It just seems that the stress far outweighs the joy.
My brothers family does big Christmas celebrations. He's always been more excited about Christmas than I was, I started seeing decorating the tree as a chore pretty early in life whereas he was always excited about it. My SIL's family goes all out, wrapping every little thing they can get their hands on. That's kinda cool. The fun is the unwrapping really so it's likely that we'll do mostly small gifts for our kids, but lots of them so there's lots of unwrapping, and then one or two big gifts. They are also a Christian household so perhaps that has something to do with the enthusiasm. But the difference isn't that they have kids and we don't. They had the enthusiasm well before they had the kids. Now they just have more family members who get excited.
So for those of us in my original family that don't have kids, Christmas kind of just becomes a second Thanksgiving. This year, K and I went over to my parents on Christmas Eve with some of their closest friends and we did a potluck Thanksgiving style dinner. The only difference in the meal between this and Thanksgiving was that someone brought a ham to go with the turkey. And my parents are pretty much of the gift giving mindset that I am. They seriously do not want more stuff in their house. So I make sure that they get my undivided attention for a meal and some games since that seems to be the only thing I have to give to them. They give their kids pretty much what everyone wants - checks. We tend to take about 10% and buy something fun (I'll probably upgrade my phone) and then use the other 90% to do responsible things like pay down some credit card debt and make sure I get a full month of bills paid in advance so I can kind of have a month off.
Christmas morning, we went over to my brother's to give gifts and my parents stopped by for an hour or so as well. I'm glad I was able to find gifts that people liked, I think 3 out of 4 of the recipients liked them (nephew seemed to move on from his gift to the next one pretty quickly), but I do always feel a little guilty that I'm not in a financial position to give more than token gifts. I did try to make sure the gifts were specific to the person, and something they might actually like, but I can't afford to give anything that someone might not just grab for themselves on a whim when out shopping. They were very generous and got our household a Kindle Fire. Totally awesome! And I wish I were in a position to return that kind of generosity.
For having 2 kids, things were actually less chaotic than you might expect. Whenever the floor became unfindable, they'd take a break from unwrapping gifts and do a clean up. I'm very impressed that they somehow got the kids to go along with that. Yes, both kids, ages 6 and 2, would stop with the presents to clean up for a few minutes!
We only stayed for about an hour because Frick and Frack decided that I needed to eat, and I needed to eat a lot immediately. So we went out to Shari's to get some breakfast. I had eggs benedict. Yeah yeah, undercooked eggs - bite me. I checked that the sauce was a mix and not raw eggs and they cooked the poached eggs a touch over done so they weren't as runny as they normally would be.
K and I got home around 1pm, all of our holiday obligations over, and we decided to put the Doctor Who marathon on TV in the bedroom and just chill out and snuggle until we got bored with doing so. We woke up about 5 hours later.
Yes, when given a day to spend together and do whatever we want, we sleep. All hail the most boring couple in the world!
While I enjoyed this holiday immensely, because yes, I really am that boring, I'm hoping our next Christmas will be vastly different with a million and one Kodak moments to try and capture. I'm still not ready to start saying things like "this is the last Christmas of just the two of us". Every time my brain goes there, I'm reminded of how I said those things a year ago and how they didn't turn out to be true. But I got through this holiday season relatively tear free, and I consider that a win.
I don't understand having to buy presents for the other adults in your life. If someone wants something, don't they generally just buy it for themselves? And if you see something you think someone else should have, don't you normally just buy one for them and give it to them for the genuine joy of giving, no matter what time of year it is? K works in retail (though not a store that has anything good for gifts) so he basically gets to watch society get more and more frazzled and stressed out as the month goes on. It just seems that the stress far outweighs the joy.
My brothers family does big Christmas celebrations. He's always been more excited about Christmas than I was, I started seeing decorating the tree as a chore pretty early in life whereas he was always excited about it. My SIL's family goes all out, wrapping every little thing they can get their hands on. That's kinda cool. The fun is the unwrapping really so it's likely that we'll do mostly small gifts for our kids, but lots of them so there's lots of unwrapping, and then one or two big gifts. They are also a Christian household so perhaps that has something to do with the enthusiasm. But the difference isn't that they have kids and we don't. They had the enthusiasm well before they had the kids. Now they just have more family members who get excited.
So for those of us in my original family that don't have kids, Christmas kind of just becomes a second Thanksgiving. This year, K and I went over to my parents on Christmas Eve with some of their closest friends and we did a potluck Thanksgiving style dinner. The only difference in the meal between this and Thanksgiving was that someone brought a ham to go with the turkey. And my parents are pretty much of the gift giving mindset that I am. They seriously do not want more stuff in their house. So I make sure that they get my undivided attention for a meal and some games since that seems to be the only thing I have to give to them. They give their kids pretty much what everyone wants - checks. We tend to take about 10% and buy something fun (I'll probably upgrade my phone) and then use the other 90% to do responsible things like pay down some credit card debt and make sure I get a full month of bills paid in advance so I can kind of have a month off.
Christmas morning, we went over to my brother's to give gifts and my parents stopped by for an hour or so as well. I'm glad I was able to find gifts that people liked, I think 3 out of 4 of the recipients liked them (nephew seemed to move on from his gift to the next one pretty quickly), but I do always feel a little guilty that I'm not in a financial position to give more than token gifts. I did try to make sure the gifts were specific to the person, and something they might actually like, but I can't afford to give anything that someone might not just grab for themselves on a whim when out shopping. They were very generous and got our household a Kindle Fire. Totally awesome! And I wish I were in a position to return that kind of generosity.
For having 2 kids, things were actually less chaotic than you might expect. Whenever the floor became unfindable, they'd take a break from unwrapping gifts and do a clean up. I'm very impressed that they somehow got the kids to go along with that. Yes, both kids, ages 6 and 2, would stop with the presents to clean up for a few minutes!
We only stayed for about an hour because Frick and Frack decided that I needed to eat, and I needed to eat a lot immediately. So we went out to Shari's to get some breakfast. I had eggs benedict. Yeah yeah, undercooked eggs - bite me. I checked that the sauce was a mix and not raw eggs and they cooked the poached eggs a touch over done so they weren't as runny as they normally would be.
K and I got home around 1pm, all of our holiday obligations over, and we decided to put the Doctor Who marathon on TV in the bedroom and just chill out and snuggle until we got bored with doing so. We woke up about 5 hours later.
Yes, when given a day to spend together and do whatever we want, we sleep. All hail the most boring couple in the world!
While I enjoyed this holiday immensely, because yes, I really am that boring, I'm hoping our next Christmas will be vastly different with a million and one Kodak moments to try and capture. I'm still not ready to start saying things like "this is the last Christmas of just the two of us". Every time my brain goes there, I'm reminded of how I said those things a year ago and how they didn't turn out to be true. But I got through this holiday season relatively tear free, and I consider that a win.
Thursday, December 22, 2011
One Year, Eleven Weeks
A year ago, I experienced the worst day of my life. And oddly, I'm not really feeling it today. I expected to be more emotional but I'm fairly blase so far. I reserve the right to retract that and become a blubbering mess at any point of course.
Woke up early and had some orange juice because the sugar in orange juice makes babies wiggle. I wanted to see as much movement as I could on the ultrasound.
Ok, so here's what's going on in there. We have heartbeats of 161/164 and measurements of 11w0d/10w6d. No, I didn't keep track of which numbers went with which baby. As long as they're healthy and pretty much even, I don't worry about those details.
BUT, and with this pregnancy, there seems to always be a "but", I still have a decent sized blood clot that could bleed again. I've gone 10 days without a bleed, which is a record, and we'll just have to see if that trend continues. I was really hoping to see the hematoma all cleared up and no longer an issue, but no, it's still there. It's not a disaster, and it's really fairly small, people have had a lot worse throughout their entire healthy pregnancies, so I just have to hope for the best.
So just as with every other appointment, I'm told that I have 2 healthy babies, but a blood clot to go with them, and we'll just have to wait and see.
Here's the best screen capture I could get that showed both babies and the blood clot all in one. The main blood clot that they measured is that little dark spot at the top of the circled area. I'm not 100% certain that the rest of those spots are clots, they might be something to do with the cervix.
Ok, pictures are great, but what we really want is VIDEO!!! Here's the best 90 seconds or so of babies wiggling.
Woke up early and had some orange juice because the sugar in orange juice makes babies wiggle. I wanted to see as much movement as I could on the ultrasound.
Ok, so here's what's going on in there. We have heartbeats of 161/164 and measurements of 11w0d/10w6d. No, I didn't keep track of which numbers went with which baby. As long as they're healthy and pretty much even, I don't worry about those details.
BUT, and with this pregnancy, there seems to always be a "but", I still have a decent sized blood clot that could bleed again. I've gone 10 days without a bleed, which is a record, and we'll just have to see if that trend continues. I was really hoping to see the hematoma all cleared up and no longer an issue, but no, it's still there. It's not a disaster, and it's really fairly small, people have had a lot worse throughout their entire healthy pregnancies, so I just have to hope for the best.
So just as with every other appointment, I'm told that I have 2 healthy babies, but a blood clot to go with them, and we'll just have to wait and see.
Here's the best screen capture I could get that showed both babies and the blood clot all in one. The main blood clot that they measured is that little dark spot at the top of the circled area. I'm not 100% certain that the rest of those spots are clots, they might be something to do with the cervix.
Ok, pictures are great, but what we really want is VIDEO!!! Here's the best 90 seconds or so of babies wiggling.
Ladies, please remember, for your own internet safety, edit your pictures and videos to crop out your personal information that's often splayed across the top of your ultrasound.
Wednesday, December 21, 2011
By the way...
I took a belly picture at 10 weeks. But I'm not going to show it until I can put it side by side with a pic taken at 16-18 weeks. Why? Oh, well, because I've never seen an early belly pic of someone who's starting out as fat as me. My belly size currently has nothing to do with the twins swimming around in there and everything to do with my fondness for chocolate and hatred for exercise.
I have my belly pic taking uniform set aside so I can always wear the same thing for direct comparisons. I only took a pic at 10 weeks so that if I get deep into the second trimester, I'll have something for reference to see if my shape is changing or if I'm still just the same kind of fat.
I have my belly pic taking uniform set aside so I can always wear the same thing for direct comparisons. I only took a pic at 10 weeks so that if I get deep into the second trimester, I'll have something for reference to see if my shape is changing or if I'm still just the same kind of fat.
Plans for tomorrow
Tonight begins the anniversary of the ordeal of losing my girls. I think I started realizing something was wrong around 10pm or so and we were heading to the ER by 11pm. So I'm kind of gearing up for an emotional roller coaster tomorrow.
I knew that tomorrow would be one of my hurdles all along, but I think I'm approaching it pretty well. It's a hurdle in that it's the anniversary so that's just hard. And also because my brain associates 11 weeks with the beginning of the safety zone. It seems like most missed miscarriages happen prior to week 11. You hear a lot of "the baby stopped growing at 10w2d" but very few people report something like that beyond the 11 week mark.
I've been a very good girl. I haven't gone in for some sort of emergency ultrasound in 8 whole days! Aren't you proud of me? So I decided to reward myself with an ultrasound tomorrow. Hey, the doctor said I could! Our schedule is pretty much every 2 weeks but he said if I feel I need one every week, we can do that. So K and I decided that seeing my little monkeys tomorrow would probably help me get through a very hard day.
We have no reason to think anything is wrong. I haven't had any bleeding and I'm generally achy around the middle which indicates growth. But getting some visual confirmation that everything is fine will just make the whole day easier. And if something is wrong, well, tomorrow is the preferred day of the year to get bad news. I'd rather our family have one death day anniversary per year rather than two.
Okey dokey. I'm gonna try to motivate myself to go into the pottery studio today and make some mugs. My shop had a really good Christmas season and my shelves are looking a little pathetic. Besides, I've been so lazy and unmotivated that I'm just bored. Even with boredom as a motivator, I'm still having trouble getting off my butt and doing anything, but I'm going to give it a valiant effort today.
I knew that tomorrow would be one of my hurdles all along, but I think I'm approaching it pretty well. It's a hurdle in that it's the anniversary so that's just hard. And also because my brain associates 11 weeks with the beginning of the safety zone. It seems like most missed miscarriages happen prior to week 11. You hear a lot of "the baby stopped growing at 10w2d" but very few people report something like that beyond the 11 week mark.
I've been a very good girl. I haven't gone in for some sort of emergency ultrasound in 8 whole days! Aren't you proud of me? So I decided to reward myself with an ultrasound tomorrow. Hey, the doctor said I could! Our schedule is pretty much every 2 weeks but he said if I feel I need one every week, we can do that. So K and I decided that seeing my little monkeys tomorrow would probably help me get through a very hard day.
We have no reason to think anything is wrong. I haven't had any bleeding and I'm generally achy around the middle which indicates growth. But getting some visual confirmation that everything is fine will just make the whole day easier. And if something is wrong, well, tomorrow is the preferred day of the year to get bad news. I'd rather our family have one death day anniversary per year rather than two.
Okey dokey. I'm gonna try to motivate myself to go into the pottery studio today and make some mugs. My shop had a really good Christmas season and my shelves are looking a little pathetic. Besides, I've been so lazy and unmotivated that I'm just bored. Even with boredom as a motivator, I'm still having trouble getting off my butt and doing anything, but I'm going to give it a valiant effort today.
Monday, December 19, 2011
Time to cheer this bitch up
I've been awfully depressing lately haven't I?
Ok, while I'm still not saying that this is sunshine and roses, let's at least blog about something other than gloom and doom!
I had a pretty good selling month of December. There's actually some room on my shelves for more pottery inventory, whenever I get the energy to actually make some more.
I've been awake during the day without a nap for 3 whole days now! Major accomplishment. Most days I try to do that and the moment I sit on the couch for a minute, I wake up 2 hours later with a cat on my lap and the best part of the day behind me.
The more forums I peruse, the more relationships that are described, the more grateful I am that I married one of the good ones. Seriously, I knew he was special, I've always been grateful, but DAMN I didn't realize how freakishly rare a good man really is! I just can't believe what other women put up with and consider to be normal.
I can smell EVERYTHING! And I have 4 indoor cats. Oh wait, I'm supposed to be cheerful. Ok, back on track.
Sorry guys. I really am in a decent mood today but I'm just not doing a damned thing lately so I have nothing to talk about. I'm just starting to get a little bit of energy back (not much, but it's coming) so I'm hoping to start doing some pottery a bit. As fun as my computer is, I'm pretty sick of staring at it. I'm pretty sure I've been to the end of the internet and back a few times already.
Random Musings -
Survivor - what the hell Hantz Family? Ok, so Brandon is a putz, and a nutcase who never should have passed the psych test and been allowed on the show, but at least his nuttiness has a good motivation behind it. And you all hate him for it? You love Russell for being an asshole and hate Brandon for trying to be a good guy? We are SOOOOO going to be seeing Brandon on TMZ a month from now either taking out half the city from the clock tower, or as the victim of a pathetic suicide attempt.
Survivor part 2 - I agree with Ozzy's lessons from skateboarding that kids need to learn that they can survive a fall. I was never allowed to fall, or bruise, or break a bone, and I think I'm a far more fearful adult because of this. I hope I have the guts to allow my kids to get a few cuts and scrapes while I'm there to make it better and I don't protect them into oblivion. That's my goal, but it's going to be a hard one for me to achieve.
Participation trophies are creating a society of mediocrity. You don't need to excel to be rewarded, and those who do excel get no rewards beyond the participation, so why bother. I hope this fad is done and gone by the time my kids are in school.
On a related note, just because your mommy likes your singing voice does not mean you are destined to win American Idol. In the real world, someone WILL tell you "no". The sooner kids learn this lesson, the better they are able to bounce back and move on to bigger and better things.
My cat is licking my hands and her breath stinks.
Ok, while I'm still not saying that this is sunshine and roses, let's at least blog about something other than gloom and doom!
I had a pretty good selling month of December. There's actually some room on my shelves for more pottery inventory, whenever I get the energy to actually make some more.
I've been awake during the day without a nap for 3 whole days now! Major accomplishment. Most days I try to do that and the moment I sit on the couch for a minute, I wake up 2 hours later with a cat on my lap and the best part of the day behind me.
The more forums I peruse, the more relationships that are described, the more grateful I am that I married one of the good ones. Seriously, I knew he was special, I've always been grateful, but DAMN I didn't realize how freakishly rare a good man really is! I just can't believe what other women put up with and consider to be normal.
I can smell EVERYTHING! And I have 4 indoor cats. Oh wait, I'm supposed to be cheerful. Ok, back on track.
Sorry guys. I really am in a decent mood today but I'm just not doing a damned thing lately so I have nothing to talk about. I'm just starting to get a little bit of energy back (not much, but it's coming) so I'm hoping to start doing some pottery a bit. As fun as my computer is, I'm pretty sick of staring at it. I'm pretty sure I've been to the end of the internet and back a few times already.
Random Musings -
Survivor - what the hell Hantz Family? Ok, so Brandon is a putz, and a nutcase who never should have passed the psych test and been allowed on the show, but at least his nuttiness has a good motivation behind it. And you all hate him for it? You love Russell for being an asshole and hate Brandon for trying to be a good guy? We are SOOOOO going to be seeing Brandon on TMZ a month from now either taking out half the city from the clock tower, or as the victim of a pathetic suicide attempt.
Survivor part 2 - I agree with Ozzy's lessons from skateboarding that kids need to learn that they can survive a fall. I was never allowed to fall, or bruise, or break a bone, and I think I'm a far more fearful adult because of this. I hope I have the guts to allow my kids to get a few cuts and scrapes while I'm there to make it better and I don't protect them into oblivion. That's my goal, but it's going to be a hard one for me to achieve.
Participation trophies are creating a society of mediocrity. You don't need to excel to be rewarded, and those who do excel get no rewards beyond the participation, so why bother. I hope this fad is done and gone by the time my kids are in school.
On a related note, just because your mommy likes your singing voice does not mean you are destined to win American Idol. In the real world, someone WILL tell you "no". The sooner kids learn this lesson, the better they are able to bounce back and move on to bigger and better things.
My cat is licking my hands and her breath stinks.
Saturday, December 17, 2011
Illogical fear
I'm very aware of the fact that most of my fear during this pregnancy is completely illogical. And I'm starting to realize why.
What happened to me, how I lost my girls, defies all logic. What happened simply doesn't make any sense.
Basically, I thought I had eaten something that made me gassy and when I went to try to take a crap, I discovered that my body was trying to eject my pregnancy. That makes NO sense. I wasn't really in any pain, just uncomfortable. The same uncomfortable that a person usually is when they eat something that makes them gassy.
And here's the main thing - there was no fluid of any kind before the sac started coming out. There was no blood. There was no liquid or discharge. My body didn't break my water before trying to push out the first baby. My body tried to eject my pregnancy fully intact. That's not really supposed to be possible.
Had it been earlier in my pregnancy, had the babies been smaller, I could have very easily have dropped the whole thing right there in the toilet without really any effort. The whole sac would have simply slid out of my body in one big blob. It's only because they were big enough to kind of get wedged in there that I continued into labor (which eventually did become very painful).
So at 7 weeks (this pregnancy), when I felt a big clot just slide right out of me, and I looked in the toilet and saw an intact clot about the size of an egg sitting in there, well, of course that's what I thought had happened. It's not supposed to be able to happen that way, except for me, in my first pregnancy, that's practically what happened.
I had some gas issues last night. And as I sat there on the couch, being uncomfortable from gas, I watched the clock. I was paying attention to see if the gas aches came in scheduled waves or if they were just random. Fortunately, there was no pattern to them. But this is how I'm spending every day right now. Every abdomen ache has me watching the clock to make sure there's no pattern, that my body isn't doing a very subtle labor. Every time I go to the bathroom, I wipe good and close so my fingers can make sure there's nothing trying to push itself out of me.
I know I should be grateful to be pregnant, and I AM grateful to be on the right track to finally bringing my children home, but this pregnancy is not fun. I've never heard anyone accuse an infertile of not being grateful enough for being in the process of IVF so please don't accuse me of not being grateful enough to be pregnant. Yes, I am, but that doesn't mean I have my children yet. It simply means that I successfully got through the IVF struggle and have moved on to Struggle 2.0.
My attitude sucks right now. Probably because next week is the anniversary of losing my girls and I'm terrified of history repeating itself. If I get through this, then I'll start approaching the point in the pregnancy at which I lost the girls, and I'll again be terrified of history repeating itself. What I'm really hoping is that once I get beyond that, once I'm at a point in the pregnancy where I'm experiencing things for the first time instead of just repeating my last pregnancy, my attitude will change and I won't be so scared all the time. I'm hoping that there will come a time when I can enjoy this fully.
I am trying. I really am. But no, I haven't purchased the maternity bra that I need for sleeping because I'm too afraid I won't need it by the time it arrives. And no, I haven't started rereading my pregnancy books. And no, I haven't started following mommy blogs and parenting blogs because I'm still not confident that I'll be joining that community any time soon.
It was taken away from me suddenly, with no warning, and in a way that defies all logic the last time. Intellectually, I'm realizing that what happened to me is really a one in a million chance occurrence. It should not have been possible. But that's the only life experience I have on the subject, so all the intelligence in the world can't convince me that it's not happening again at any given moment.
What happened to me, how I lost my girls, defies all logic. What happened simply doesn't make any sense.
Basically, I thought I had eaten something that made me gassy and when I went to try to take a crap, I discovered that my body was trying to eject my pregnancy. That makes NO sense. I wasn't really in any pain, just uncomfortable. The same uncomfortable that a person usually is when they eat something that makes them gassy.
And here's the main thing - there was no fluid of any kind before the sac started coming out. There was no blood. There was no liquid or discharge. My body didn't break my water before trying to push out the first baby. My body tried to eject my pregnancy fully intact. That's not really supposed to be possible.
Had it been earlier in my pregnancy, had the babies been smaller, I could have very easily have dropped the whole thing right there in the toilet without really any effort. The whole sac would have simply slid out of my body in one big blob. It's only because they were big enough to kind of get wedged in there that I continued into labor (which eventually did become very painful).
So at 7 weeks (this pregnancy), when I felt a big clot just slide right out of me, and I looked in the toilet and saw an intact clot about the size of an egg sitting in there, well, of course that's what I thought had happened. It's not supposed to be able to happen that way, except for me, in my first pregnancy, that's practically what happened.
I had some gas issues last night. And as I sat there on the couch, being uncomfortable from gas, I watched the clock. I was paying attention to see if the gas aches came in scheduled waves or if they were just random. Fortunately, there was no pattern to them. But this is how I'm spending every day right now. Every abdomen ache has me watching the clock to make sure there's no pattern, that my body isn't doing a very subtle labor. Every time I go to the bathroom, I wipe good and close so my fingers can make sure there's nothing trying to push itself out of me.
I know I should be grateful to be pregnant, and I AM grateful to be on the right track to finally bringing my children home, but this pregnancy is not fun. I've never heard anyone accuse an infertile of not being grateful enough for being in the process of IVF so please don't accuse me of not being grateful enough to be pregnant. Yes, I am, but that doesn't mean I have my children yet. It simply means that I successfully got through the IVF struggle and have moved on to Struggle 2.0.
My attitude sucks right now. Probably because next week is the anniversary of losing my girls and I'm terrified of history repeating itself. If I get through this, then I'll start approaching the point in the pregnancy at which I lost the girls, and I'll again be terrified of history repeating itself. What I'm really hoping is that once I get beyond that, once I'm at a point in the pregnancy where I'm experiencing things for the first time instead of just repeating my last pregnancy, my attitude will change and I won't be so scared all the time. I'm hoping that there will come a time when I can enjoy this fully.
I am trying. I really am. But no, I haven't purchased the maternity bra that I need for sleeping because I'm too afraid I won't need it by the time it arrives. And no, I haven't started rereading my pregnancy books. And no, I haven't started following mommy blogs and parenting blogs because I'm still not confident that I'll be joining that community any time soon.
It was taken away from me suddenly, with no warning, and in a way that defies all logic the last time. Intellectually, I'm realizing that what happened to me is really a one in a million chance occurrence. It should not have been possible. But that's the only life experience I have on the subject, so all the intelligence in the world can't convince me that it's not happening again at any given moment.
Thursday, December 15, 2011
OB1
OB1. That's what they call the first OB appointment of the pregnancy. Makes me want to wave my hand and flatly say "These ARE the twins you're looking for" in a male British voice.
I kind of cheated and saw my OB a couple of days early because I was bleeding and having an emotional meltdown. I don't even know where Monday's meltdown came from. The bleed was minor, much less than what I've seen before, and I got through the last one far more annoyed than upset. Guess I had a hormone surge or something that decided to burst out my tear ducts for a few hours. Oh well. I've overreacted over lesser things in my life.
No ultrasound since I got one on Monday, but we did all the other basic testing. "What was your weight before you got pregnant, for the baseline?" Oh crap, ain't that a loaded question? Well, 2 months before it was about 250, then it dropped to about 230, then it went up to 235 about the time I did egg retrieval and as I continued to stuff my face now that they weren't forcing me to diet like a mad person anymore, I'm pretty sure it was a solid 240 by the time anything had a chance to implant. Choose a number, any number! I'm sure I hit that number at some point in there!
I don't have a whole lot to report about the doctors appointment itself for a couple of reasons.
First, I've mentioned this before but there are new followers who don't know this about me. For some reason, I just have a mental block on anything that happens in a doctors office. I never remember it correctly or I forget most of it the moment I leave the room. I don't know why. That's why I take K to most of my doctors appointments, so I have someone to confirm things with later. I consider what a doctor has to say to be pretty important and I'd just really rather have a second set of ears hearing things too so that I don't mix them up.
And secondly, Dr C confirmed that he does actually read this blog. Hi Dr. C! Soooooooooo, well, repeating what another person has said and having that person read your interpretation of what they said, that just never goes well. He told me that he threw out the shoes that I brought up in a previous post. Dude, you're taking fashion advice from ME? Whoa, that really makes me call your judgment into question! But, on the other hand, hmmmmm, do I have some power to wield here? I wonder.... if I make fun of his thick black hair, can I make him go blond? Muwahahahahahahaha! Ok, that would be too evil.
But since you're here Dr. C, I have recommended you to some new to Seattle moms looking for an OB. One of the reasons - you don't do that doctor thing where you put your hand on the door, obviously ready to leave as you say "anything else I can help you with?" Nope, you sit there until the conversation is over and don't make a motion to leave until questions are answered. Is this a new fad in patient treatment? Because most of my life I've had older doctors who don't know their patients at all, or care, but both you and my GP who is about the same age seem to have a much more personal take on patient care. Don't lose that as you get older and more know-it-ally. So there's your patient feedback for the day.
Anyway, I think we're all pretty much on the same page. He was pretty chill about the last pregnancy, very low key and trusting that things would go fine because no one could see any reason why it wouldn't. I tried to mimic that and be just as relaxed about that pregnancy. We can all agree, that didn't end well. We are not relaxing this pregnancy. I'll be going in for checkups every 2 weeks, he said we could bump that up to weekly if I feel the need to (I'm really going to try not to feel the need to), we'll be starting progesterone shots at week 16, etc etc etc. We're going with overkill cautious this time and I'm totally cool with that.
We did do a swab to check that I've got the right balance of bacterias and apparently things are a bit out of whack. So a week of antibiotics for me. And here's the funny thing, instead of being upset that there's something that requires medication, both K and my friend KM reacted with a thumbs up, as if it's a really good thing to find this rather than it being kind of a bad thing that this exists in the first place. One of the side effects of the antibiotic is potential diarrhea and considering how much I've been fighting constipation, I'm totally up for a bit of change of pace in that department.
Metamucil is disgusting btw. There's just no hiding that crap. I've tried mixing it with water according to the directions, only using half a dose, trying to hide it in orange juice since it's orange flavored, trying to hide it in a totally different but overpowering flavored fruit juice. Just no go. No matter how you mix that crap, it's thick and gross and I don't want to try drinking it anymore. The Metamucil cookies aren't bad though. And I've found some fiber gummies so when I'm done with the antibiotic, I'll give those a go.
Welcome to my Paranoia Pregnancy!
I kind of cheated and saw my OB a couple of days early because I was bleeding and having an emotional meltdown. I don't even know where Monday's meltdown came from. The bleed was minor, much less than what I've seen before, and I got through the last one far more annoyed than upset. Guess I had a hormone surge or something that decided to burst out my tear ducts for a few hours. Oh well. I've overreacted over lesser things in my life.
No ultrasound since I got one on Monday, but we did all the other basic testing. "What was your weight before you got pregnant, for the baseline?" Oh crap, ain't that a loaded question? Well, 2 months before it was about 250, then it dropped to about 230, then it went up to 235 about the time I did egg retrieval and as I continued to stuff my face now that they weren't forcing me to diet like a mad person anymore, I'm pretty sure it was a solid 240 by the time anything had a chance to implant. Choose a number, any number! I'm sure I hit that number at some point in there!
I don't have a whole lot to report about the doctors appointment itself for a couple of reasons.
First, I've mentioned this before but there are new followers who don't know this about me. For some reason, I just have a mental block on anything that happens in a doctors office. I never remember it correctly or I forget most of it the moment I leave the room. I don't know why. That's why I take K to most of my doctors appointments, so I have someone to confirm things with later. I consider what a doctor has to say to be pretty important and I'd just really rather have a second set of ears hearing things too so that I don't mix them up.
And secondly, Dr C confirmed that he does actually read this blog. Hi Dr. C! Soooooooooo, well, repeating what another person has said and having that person read your interpretation of what they said, that just never goes well. He told me that he threw out the shoes that I brought up in a previous post. Dude, you're taking fashion advice from ME? Whoa, that really makes me call your judgment into question! But, on the other hand, hmmmmm, do I have some power to wield here? I wonder.... if I make fun of his thick black hair, can I make him go blond? Muwahahahahahahaha! Ok, that would be too evil.
But since you're here Dr. C, I have recommended you to some new to Seattle moms looking for an OB. One of the reasons - you don't do that doctor thing where you put your hand on the door, obviously ready to leave as you say "anything else I can help you with?" Nope, you sit there until the conversation is over and don't make a motion to leave until questions are answered. Is this a new fad in patient treatment? Because most of my life I've had older doctors who don't know their patients at all, or care, but both you and my GP who is about the same age seem to have a much more personal take on patient care. Don't lose that as you get older and more know-it-ally. So there's your patient feedback for the day.
Anyway, I think we're all pretty much on the same page. He was pretty chill about the last pregnancy, very low key and trusting that things would go fine because no one could see any reason why it wouldn't. I tried to mimic that and be just as relaxed about that pregnancy. We can all agree, that didn't end well. We are not relaxing this pregnancy. I'll be going in for checkups every 2 weeks, he said we could bump that up to weekly if I feel the need to (I'm really going to try not to feel the need to), we'll be starting progesterone shots at week 16, etc etc etc. We're going with overkill cautious this time and I'm totally cool with that.
We did do a swab to check that I've got the right balance of bacterias and apparently things are a bit out of whack. So a week of antibiotics for me. And here's the funny thing, instead of being upset that there's something that requires medication, both K and my friend KM reacted with a thumbs up, as if it's a really good thing to find this rather than it being kind of a bad thing that this exists in the first place. One of the side effects of the antibiotic is potential diarrhea and considering how much I've been fighting constipation, I'm totally up for a bit of change of pace in that department.
Metamucil is disgusting btw. There's just no hiding that crap. I've tried mixing it with water according to the directions, only using half a dose, trying to hide it in orange juice since it's orange flavored, trying to hide it in a totally different but overpowering flavored fruit juice. Just no go. No matter how you mix that crap, it's thick and gross and I don't want to try drinking it anymore. The Metamucil cookies aren't bad though. And I've found some fiber gummies so when I'm done with the antibiotic, I'll give those a go.
Welcome to my Paranoia Pregnancy!
Wednesday, December 14, 2011
The cold, cold bed
K was potentially coming down with a cold last night so he was banished to the air mattress again. Obviously, he was desperately missed.
Monday, December 12, 2011
PTSD
The bleeding freaked me out way beyond all proportion. I mean, most of my bleeds have been significantly worse than this one and I logically seemed to know that things were probably just fine. And even so, I went a bit into overdrive. I know, hard to believe, but yes, I freaked and asked to go in to my OB office for a peak at the monkeys to make sure hearts were beating.
Ya know the constipation I mentioned earlier? Yeah, that's been a bit more traumatic for me than I've been talking about. When I lost the girls, for about an hour, I mistook labor for constipation. And there was straining on the toilet and things coming out where they shouldn't and feeling it with my hand. Shortly after the toilet experience, the undeniable labor started which was pain all around my core.
So this last week, I had some major constipation. I had some solids in there that took 2 full days of straining and pushing to get out. Those entire 2 days, every time I pushed, well, ladies you know how when you've got something huge coming out the back, it kind of bulges the front too? Yeah, I had that going on, so I had a very tactile similarity in my hand when wiping to last year when I was feeling the sac bulge out. And all of the straining really caused my core section to be sore the last few days, including lower back pain, and every little ache has reminded me of the labor pain.
So heading to the doctors office this afternoon, I just kind of lost it, all sorts of crying in the car. I'm 10 days away from the one year anniversary of losing the girls. I'm pretty much in the same life situation I was in when that happened (pregnant with twins). All the tactile reminders over the week. And my body feels like it's heading on the road to the same destination I found myself at a year ago - dead babies.
I pulled myself together as well as to be expected and they were able to get me in for my ultrasound very quickly. And the moment wanda was in place, there was Twin A waving at me as if to say "OMG Mom, would you calm the fuck down? I'm right here! Hellloooooooo!!!!!" Twin B was much more chilaxed but just as healthy. Heartbeats at 171 and 167, both measuring 9w1d (3 days behind just as they always have been). They found a small subchorionic bleed, just over 1cm, and that things look good.
I didn't feel the need to talk to the doctor, the ultrasound gave me the info I wanted, but they had me wait a bit to talk to my good ole Dr. C. I still feel kind of silly considering I've got my real appointment with him in 2 days but he really doesn't seem to mind. And for some reason, even though I'd been told everything was fine, and even though I believed that everything was fine, I could not stop crying. It's just been such a hard week and I'm so tired, and I can't handle this constant pattern of bleeding but fine.
So Dr. C comes in and I tell him that I don't understand why my brain isn't communicating with my face and making it stop crying. He says I've got some PTSD going on. That when he saw my name on his appointment calendar, even he had a mild panic flutter because what happened with me was professionally the worst day of his life. So if he's having flashbacks, of course I must be having some major issues. Yup, that's how I just LOVE to be remembered!
But really? PTSD? I kind of feel like I don't deserve that mantle. Women have miscarriages every day. And yeah, mine sucked, and ok, the experience was a bit more dramatic than what most women go through, but really? Was it really such a uniquely horrific experience to warrant PTSD? PTSD seems reserved for those who have truly witnessed/experienced horrific events, like soldiers returning from war. How can what I went through compare to what so many soldiers are surviving day after day? Was mine really that much worse than what other woman are going through every day?
Well, whether I deserve it or not, I seem to be suffering some effects from it. I just can't fathom going into the new year still pregnant. All signs point towards things being just fine, but my brain just won't go there. And as the dates on the calendar swing back around to the same numbers they were when I lost the girls, so does my grief and fear and I'm having trouble understanding that this is a different pregnancy with a potentially different outcome. I just can't help but feel like I'm simply repeating last December.
The babies are fine, but I'm having a really hard time of things.
***Update*** Just to give you an idea as to why I have a hard time believing I went through something so uniquely awful, I spent most of my life suffering from bipolar disorder. So I was disproportionately miserable in relation to my circumstances. So while my miscarriage was the most horrible thing I could ever imagine, I assume that other people have it worse and that my story isn't more horrible than anyone elses. I talked to my dad. My dad is a judge and his career has been determining various benefits for people (they've usually been denied benefits several times by the time they get to my dad so don't hate him, he's pretty awesome). So I asked him if he thought that what I went through would warrant PTSD. He says yes. Soooooooo, if the doctor thinks so, and my dad thinks so, I guess it was pretty fucking traumatic and it's ok for me to be dealing with some lingering effects.
Ya know the constipation I mentioned earlier? Yeah, that's been a bit more traumatic for me than I've been talking about. When I lost the girls, for about an hour, I mistook labor for constipation. And there was straining on the toilet and things coming out where they shouldn't and feeling it with my hand. Shortly after the toilet experience, the undeniable labor started which was pain all around my core.
So this last week, I had some major constipation. I had some solids in there that took 2 full days of straining and pushing to get out. Those entire 2 days, every time I pushed, well, ladies you know how when you've got something huge coming out the back, it kind of bulges the front too? Yeah, I had that going on, so I had a very tactile similarity in my hand when wiping to last year when I was feeling the sac bulge out. And all of the straining really caused my core section to be sore the last few days, including lower back pain, and every little ache has reminded me of the labor pain.
So heading to the doctors office this afternoon, I just kind of lost it, all sorts of crying in the car. I'm 10 days away from the one year anniversary of losing the girls. I'm pretty much in the same life situation I was in when that happened (pregnant with twins). All the tactile reminders over the week. And my body feels like it's heading on the road to the same destination I found myself at a year ago - dead babies.
I pulled myself together as well as to be expected and they were able to get me in for my ultrasound very quickly. And the moment wanda was in place, there was Twin A waving at me as if to say "OMG Mom, would you calm the fuck down? I'm right here! Hellloooooooo!!!!!" Twin B was much more chilaxed but just as healthy. Heartbeats at 171 and 167, both measuring 9w1d (3 days behind just as they always have been). They found a small subchorionic bleed, just over 1cm, and that things look good.
I didn't feel the need to talk to the doctor, the ultrasound gave me the info I wanted, but they had me wait a bit to talk to my good ole Dr. C. I still feel kind of silly considering I've got my real appointment with him in 2 days but he really doesn't seem to mind. And for some reason, even though I'd been told everything was fine, and even though I believed that everything was fine, I could not stop crying. It's just been such a hard week and I'm so tired, and I can't handle this constant pattern of bleeding but fine.
So Dr. C comes in and I tell him that I don't understand why my brain isn't communicating with my face and making it stop crying. He says I've got some PTSD going on. That when he saw my name on his appointment calendar, even he had a mild panic flutter because what happened with me was professionally the worst day of his life. So if he's having flashbacks, of course I must be having some major issues. Yup, that's how I just LOVE to be remembered!
But really? PTSD? I kind of feel like I don't deserve that mantle. Women have miscarriages every day. And yeah, mine sucked, and ok, the experience was a bit more dramatic than what most women go through, but really? Was it really such a uniquely horrific experience to warrant PTSD? PTSD seems reserved for those who have truly witnessed/experienced horrific events, like soldiers returning from war. How can what I went through compare to what so many soldiers are surviving day after day? Was mine really that much worse than what other woman are going through every day?
Well, whether I deserve it or not, I seem to be suffering some effects from it. I just can't fathom going into the new year still pregnant. All signs point towards things being just fine, but my brain just won't go there. And as the dates on the calendar swing back around to the same numbers they were when I lost the girls, so does my grief and fear and I'm having trouble understanding that this is a different pregnancy with a potentially different outcome. I just can't help but feel like I'm simply repeating last December.
The babies are fine, but I'm having a really hard time of things.
***Update*** Just to give you an idea as to why I have a hard time believing I went through something so uniquely awful, I spent most of my life suffering from bipolar disorder. So I was disproportionately miserable in relation to my circumstances. So while my miscarriage was the most horrible thing I could ever imagine, I assume that other people have it worse and that my story isn't more horrible than anyone elses. I talked to my dad. My dad is a judge and his career has been determining various benefits for people (they've usually been denied benefits several times by the time they get to my dad so don't hate him, he's pretty awesome). So I asked him if he thought that what I went through would warrant PTSD. He says yes. Soooooooo, if the doctor thinks so, and my dad thinks so, I guess it was pretty fucking traumatic and it's ok for me to be dealing with some lingering effects.
Monday Bloody Monday
Well, that was fun. Several days of not wearing a pad and just being relatively happily pregnant. Yup, sure did enjoy that.
Bloody wipe this morning. That's the bad news. The good news is that it was primarily brown and after cleaning up whatever had pooled during the night, so far it seems to have stopped again. If this is all there is to this one, it will be the least severe of my bleeds (well, except the first one which was practically nothing). But I've only been out of bed for 2 hours so it's likely there's a few more waves of blood before this is over.
I had a video job today. Yup, I'm pretty sure these little suckers are kicking out blood right before I have to leave for video jobs on purpose. Last time, I cancelled. This time, I decided to go ahead and go. The blood was pretty much over, and I'd only be out of the house for 2 hours at most, and I really don't want my rep with the company to start sinking because I keep cancelling due to "medical emergencies" right when I'm supposed to be headed out the door. I had my video gear in hand, exited the house, came back in to let K know that I would give the cat her medication when I got back and my phone starts ringing. It's the client. Her assistant tells me that she's had a family emergency and needs to reschedule the video shoot. Woot! I get a small cancellation fee, and I get to sit home and wipe my crotch all day looking for changes to freak out about!
Called my OB's office. My first appointment there is on Wednesday but I called and reported bleeding and asked if I could come in this afternoon. I'm still waiting for a call back. I doubt I'll get in before my scheduled appointment.
I can't believe I'm still less than 10 weeks along. Every day is just taking so freaking long! The days aren't adding up together fast enough! It feels like I've been pregnant and terrified for months now and yet I'm still in the "anything can happen at any moment" first trimester.
Screw this. I'm going to get some decaf Starbucks and go back to bed.
Bloody wipe this morning. That's the bad news. The good news is that it was primarily brown and after cleaning up whatever had pooled during the night, so far it seems to have stopped again. If this is all there is to this one, it will be the least severe of my bleeds (well, except the first one which was practically nothing). But I've only been out of bed for 2 hours so it's likely there's a few more waves of blood before this is over.
I had a video job today. Yup, I'm pretty sure these little suckers are kicking out blood right before I have to leave for video jobs on purpose. Last time, I cancelled. This time, I decided to go ahead and go. The blood was pretty much over, and I'd only be out of the house for 2 hours at most, and I really don't want my rep with the company to start sinking because I keep cancelling due to "medical emergencies" right when I'm supposed to be headed out the door. I had my video gear in hand, exited the house, came back in to let K know that I would give the cat her medication when I got back and my phone starts ringing. It's the client. Her assistant tells me that she's had a family emergency and needs to reschedule the video shoot. Woot! I get a small cancellation fee, and I get to sit home and wipe my crotch all day looking for changes to freak out about!
Called my OB's office. My first appointment there is on Wednesday but I called and reported bleeding and asked if I could come in this afternoon. I'm still waiting for a call back. I doubt I'll get in before my scheduled appointment.
I can't believe I'm still less than 10 weeks along. Every day is just taking so freaking long! The days aren't adding up together fast enough! It feels like I've been pregnant and terrified for months now and yet I'm still in the "anything can happen at any moment" first trimester.
Screw this. I'm going to get some decaf Starbucks and go back to bed.
Saturday, December 10, 2011
No news is good news
Haven't been around much because I've had nothing to report.
If I get through today, I'll have one full week of no bleeding. I've gone the arrogant route and I haven't worn any kind of pad or pantyliner in days! I'm loving it!
I was looking at one of my ultrasound pics and I swear there's the beginnings of a face in there. What do you think?
Kind of looks like a slavine from Dr. Who but with more forehead.
Latest in lovely pregnancy symptoms - constipation! Weeeeeeeee!
Ok, this is one of the reasons I'm pretty sure there's at least one boy in there. With the girls, my tastebuds wanted vegetables. Lots and lots of veggies. This time, all dairy, all the time. Looks like I'll be stocking up on spinach, eating a few prunes, and cutting down on the cheese. Cracklin oat bran for breakfast this morning. I might skip my prenatal today too because of all the iron it contains. I've just really gotta loosen up what's going on down there.
If I get through today, I'll have one full week of no bleeding. I've gone the arrogant route and I haven't worn any kind of pad or pantyliner in days! I'm loving it!
I was looking at one of my ultrasound pics and I swear there's the beginnings of a face in there. What do you think?
Kind of looks like a slavine from Dr. Who but with more forehead.
Latest in lovely pregnancy symptoms - constipation! Weeeeeeeee!
Ok, this is one of the reasons I'm pretty sure there's at least one boy in there. With the girls, my tastebuds wanted vegetables. Lots and lots of veggies. This time, all dairy, all the time. Looks like I'll be stocking up on spinach, eating a few prunes, and cutting down on the cheese. Cracklin oat bran for breakfast this morning. I might skip my prenatal today too because of all the iron it contains. I've just really gotta loosen up what's going on down there.
Wednesday, December 7, 2011
Meet the monkeys!
I gots pictures! I'll only post one because it's the best one and why force a bunch of mediocre blobbies in your faces.
Today I'm 8w6d and everything is looking good. I graduate from the fertility clinic and move on to the high risk ob with an appointment one week from today.
While we can't say for sure that the bleeding is over, she couldn't find any clots that we could predict bleeding. Does that make sense? It still might happen, but we didn't see anything today showing that it will happen. Ok, that sentence makes more sense.
Both babies are measuring just about right, the heart rates are between 155-160bpm which is perfect. And the doctor saw them each wiggle (I didn't notice it). While there are obviously no guarantees, things are looking as good as they can look at the moment.
On the symptom front, damn I'm a lucky bitch. Pretty much done feeling queasy. I sometimes feel a little bit of stretching in the abdomen which I love because it means they're growing, and I'm having some lower back ache from time to time, and I'm waking up constantly during the night. But for the most part, yeah, I'm really lucky.
Ok, I partially wanted to get all this out so that people who don't want ultrasound pictures in their faces might have some text before the pictures show up on screen and I think that's enough. So here we go!
Baby B is on the left and Baby A is on the right, and both are pretty much hanging upside down. So we're back to calling them monkeys.
Today I'm 8w6d and everything is looking good. I graduate from the fertility clinic and move on to the high risk ob with an appointment one week from today.
While we can't say for sure that the bleeding is over, she couldn't find any clots that we could predict bleeding. Does that make sense? It still might happen, but we didn't see anything today showing that it will happen. Ok, that sentence makes more sense.
Both babies are measuring just about right, the heart rates are between 155-160bpm which is perfect. And the doctor saw them each wiggle (I didn't notice it). While there are obviously no guarantees, things are looking as good as they can look at the moment.
On the symptom front, damn I'm a lucky bitch. Pretty much done feeling queasy. I sometimes feel a little bit of stretching in the abdomen which I love because it means they're growing, and I'm having some lower back ache from time to time, and I'm waking up constantly during the night. But for the most part, yeah, I'm really lucky.
Ok, I partially wanted to get all this out so that people who don't want ultrasound pictures in their faces might have some text before the pictures show up on screen and I think that's enough. So here we go!
Baby B is on the left and Baby A is on the right, and both are pretty much hanging upside down. So we're back to calling them monkeys.
Monday, December 5, 2011
I think we're all still here
Fun, fun weekend. The bleeding started, and it stopped. I sighed in relief, so it started again. It now appears to have stopped again.
It wasn't fun, but it wasn't the worst it's been either. I was expecting a whole lot more. I guess I must have absorbed a portion of it before it actually bled.
But as far as I can tell, everything should be fine. I'm having some stretching discomforts in the very bottom of the belly and some constant pressure on my bladder so I always feel like I just finished a gallon of water, even when my bladder is empty. It's really uncomfortable, but I'll take it. If things are stretching, that can only mean that things are growing and need the extra room. Things don't grow if they aren't ok anymore so I'm taking this as a sign that everyone still has a heartbeat and everyone is getting bigger.
Symptoms at 8w4d
It wasn't fun, but it wasn't the worst it's been either. I was expecting a whole lot more. I guess I must have absorbed a portion of it before it actually bled.
But as far as I can tell, everything should be fine. I'm having some stretching discomforts in the very bottom of the belly and some constant pressure on my bladder so I always feel like I just finished a gallon of water, even when my bladder is empty. It's really uncomfortable, but I'll take it. If things are stretching, that can only mean that things are growing and need the extra room. Things don't grow if they aren't ok anymore so I'm taking this as a sign that everyone still has a heartbeat and everyone is getting bigger.
Symptoms at 8w4d
- Always feel like I've drunk too much water. And like the weight of the fluid is pulling my abdomen down.
- Minor stretching pains throughout the abdomen. Pain is almost too strong a word.
- Feeding has officially moved to the a few bites at a time, a lot of times throughout the day pattern. I've told K to just cook dinner for himself and expect me to eat a few bites of his rather than have him cook for 2.
- Still don't feel like I'm sleeping soundly. But I'm sleeping more than usual.
- Lots of dreaming.
- I'm loving satsuma oranges. I usually hate oranges. But those are sweet and don't have seeds and I want more. I think it's the citric acid that I'm finding so appealing.
- I'm constantly going to the bathroom but I'm not sure if it counts. I'm doing it more to wipe and see if there's anything there that shouldn't be there rather than to pee. I've stopped flushing the toilet unless there's a significant reason to do so. It was getting ridiculous flushing the toilet for 3 drops of urine and a piece of toilet paper all day.
- My nose is full. And I'm waking up with a really full yet dry nose which kind of makes for a sore throat until I get up and hydrated again.
Symptoms that have faded
- Don't seem to be dealing with nausea much anymore.
- Those major pulling twinges in the very first weeks are pretty much gone.
- I have a little more brain power than I did those first couple of weeks, but I wouldn't say it's all back.
- Boobs are generally fine and normal for me at the moment.
So that's where I am right now. I'm hoping to steal an ultrasound picture from them on Wednesday. Apparently they don't give them out anymore, but if I bring in a flash drive, they might transfer some over. My doctor said they don't normally do that but with everything I've been dealing with, I've kind of earned it. But it will be a different doctor on Wednesday than usual at the clinic so we'll see if this doctor agrees. If not, I have my first OB appointment the following week and I've requested another ultrasound, ya know, cuz of the bleeding, so hopefully I'll get one from them.
As much as I'd like to say I'm done with the bleeding, I think it's reasonable to assume it's going to happen again. It's been happening every 3-5 days for the last 3 weeks so I think I have to assume that this is going to be a fairly regular thing for the time being.
Saturday, December 3, 2011
I hate this
Argh.
This morning seemed to be the end of the fresh blood. Most of the day, the bleeding has been either brown, or just barely there with my system clearing out some final blood residue.
Just when I thought "Ok, that wasn't too bad" boom, bright red, fresh blood starting all over again.
And I'm 8w2d so it's expected that I would have mild cramps and twinges and gurgles and stuff. Nothing has been painful, but every fucking twitch has me analyzing what it means and if it could be bad. I can't determine what's normal 8 week stuff and what might signal disaster!
I'm not really having nausea anymore so the absence of that symptom makes me freak out. However, the last couple of days, I've been feeling pregnant in that my abdomen has been heavy. Am I potentially missing a missed miscarriage? You know, the kind where your symptoms go away because the heart(s) stopped beating but you don't actually expel the fetus(es)?
As I sit here writing this, I'm having a small shooting pain on my waistline, about halfway between my belly button and my right side.
And apropos of absolutely nothing, I got a notice for jury duty in January. AGAIN. I fucking hate being forced into downtown Seattle during the potentially snowy season. The last time I had jury duty, in the same building as this time, I got trapped on a bus for 5 hours because it began to snow hard on the way home and no one in this part of Washington can deal with it. I didn't even make it home. I finally gave up when we crawled onto the the exit that would take me to my parents house and had my dad come pick me up from there. K was behind me in traffic so I just told him to meet me there and we spent the night at my folks. To tell you how obnoxious this is, on an average day, it takes about 10 minutes to get from my parents house to my house. But the traffic was SOOOO bad, and so refusing to move, that we were anticipating another 2-3 hours to travel those couple of miles making it pointless to try. Yeah, I really want the potential of doing that again at around 14 weeks pregnant. Assuming I can even get to 14 fucking weeks pregnant which right now I'm having some serious doubts about.
Unhappy Alex is Unhappy.
4 more days until my next ultrasound.
This morning seemed to be the end of the fresh blood. Most of the day, the bleeding has been either brown, or just barely there with my system clearing out some final blood residue.
Just when I thought "Ok, that wasn't too bad" boom, bright red, fresh blood starting all over again.
And I'm 8w2d so it's expected that I would have mild cramps and twinges and gurgles and stuff. Nothing has been painful, but every fucking twitch has me analyzing what it means and if it could be bad. I can't determine what's normal 8 week stuff and what might signal disaster!
I'm not really having nausea anymore so the absence of that symptom makes me freak out. However, the last couple of days, I've been feeling pregnant in that my abdomen has been heavy. Am I potentially missing a missed miscarriage? You know, the kind where your symptoms go away because the heart(s) stopped beating but you don't actually expel the fetus(es)?
As I sit here writing this, I'm having a small shooting pain on my waistline, about halfway between my belly button and my right side.
And apropos of absolutely nothing, I got a notice for jury duty in January. AGAIN. I fucking hate being forced into downtown Seattle during the potentially snowy season. The last time I had jury duty, in the same building as this time, I got trapped on a bus for 5 hours because it began to snow hard on the way home and no one in this part of Washington can deal with it. I didn't even make it home. I finally gave up when we crawled onto the the exit that would take me to my parents house and had my dad come pick me up from there. K was behind me in traffic so I just told him to meet me there and we spent the night at my folks. To tell you how obnoxious this is, on an average day, it takes about 10 minutes to get from my parents house to my house. But the traffic was SOOOO bad, and so refusing to move, that we were anticipating another 2-3 hours to travel those couple of miles making it pointless to try. Yeah, I really want the potential of doing that again at around 14 weeks pregnant. Assuming I can even get to 14 fucking weeks pregnant which right now I'm having some serious doubts about.
Unhappy Alex is Unhappy.
4 more days until my next ultrasound.
Friday, December 2, 2011
And here I thought I might escape
It had been a few days so I thought maybe my doing nothing for those days had changed my destiny in terms of the expected bleeding.
Nope.
20 minutes before I'm supposed head out the door for the one video job I have on the books this month, I feel it. That hot, wet little whoosh. Head off to the bathroom and confirm, the bleeding has started.
I had talked to K about this last night. The logistics I mean. This bleeding is, in theory, nothing more important or difficult to deal with than an average woman's period. So, do I go to work? Or do I call in sick? The plan was to go to work unless I was in some sort of pain or the bleeding was especially heavy.
I'm not following the plan. I live about 15 minutes from the ER. My video shoot is about 45 minutes away, and I'd be coming home at the height of traffic hour, having to fight through Microsoft traffic so it could easily be 2 hours stuck sitting in my car, bleeding. And that's if nothing in particular goes wrong.
I called in and said I had a minor medical emergency. Fortunately, they'll be able to reschedule my shoot for next week so I won't lose the gig. I'm not expecting anything to happen, but I really want to be sitting at home, in my jammies, phone nearby to call someone to take me to the ER in case it does.
So, anything good on TV tonight?
Nope.
20 minutes before I'm supposed head out the door for the one video job I have on the books this month, I feel it. That hot, wet little whoosh. Head off to the bathroom and confirm, the bleeding has started.
I had talked to K about this last night. The logistics I mean. This bleeding is, in theory, nothing more important or difficult to deal with than an average woman's period. So, do I go to work? Or do I call in sick? The plan was to go to work unless I was in some sort of pain or the bleeding was especially heavy.
I'm not following the plan. I live about 15 minutes from the ER. My video shoot is about 45 minutes away, and I'd be coming home at the height of traffic hour, having to fight through Microsoft traffic so it could easily be 2 hours stuck sitting in my car, bleeding. And that's if nothing in particular goes wrong.
I called in and said I had a minor medical emergency. Fortunately, they'll be able to reschedule my shoot for next week so I won't lose the gig. I'm not expecting anything to happen, but I really want to be sitting at home, in my jammies, phone nearby to call someone to take me to the ER in case it does.
So, anything good on TV tonight?
Progesterone
Went into the clinic yesterday to get another blood draw to test my progesterone. Also got circles drawn on my butt in case we're going to move on to the progesterone oil.
The said if my progesterone levels was 20 or above, we could discontinue the supplements. Mine was 109. Yes, 109. Over five times what they wanted it to be! Oh, and here's a little fun fact for you. When you use the vaginal medication, it doesn't enter your blood stream. It delivers the hormone directly to your reproductive system without having it absorbed into your blood stream so that 109 I'm looking at, yeah, that's what my body is producing WITHOUT any supplements. All of the supplements I've been tolerating have been over and above that 109.
So I'll be weaning myself down over the next week simply because I don't want to surprise or shock my body at all.
But you know what? I'm kinda pissed. I contacted the clinic a long time ago and said I really hate these things, do I really need them? They didn't test my levels. I told them that it was a financial hardship so could I just get them a few days at a time until we decide if I need them or not. No, they wanted me to get the full supply. At least they were willing to give me a months worth of samples to offset the financial hardship. But now that I'm not going to need them, I can't return them! All that medication is going to go waste because they wouldn't test whether or not I actually needed a medication before insisting that I take the medication.
How many weeks worth of unnecessary medications, at $5 per dose, 3 doses per day, have I shoved into my body?
This is what I mean by I feel like I'm processed. I don't feel like the care I'm given has a damned thing to do with me or my individual body. Just so fucking indicative of everything I now hate about the clinic that was pretty awesome a year ago.
In other news, I chatted with the doctor quickly. Asked her that if I haven't bled yet, does that mean my body is reabsorbing the clot? She said if I don't bleed in about a week, that's what it would mean. So there's still a perfectly good chance I could start bleeding any time now. Lovely. I'm going to be working for an hour at a very guy heavy facility and then I'll probably be stuck in traffic for an hour or two. Guess what I think Murphy's Law is going to do to me later today.
Ultrasound in 5 days.
The said if my progesterone levels was 20 or above, we could discontinue the supplements. Mine was 109. Yes, 109. Over five times what they wanted it to be! Oh, and here's a little fun fact for you. When you use the vaginal medication, it doesn't enter your blood stream. It delivers the hormone directly to your reproductive system without having it absorbed into your blood stream so that 109 I'm looking at, yeah, that's what my body is producing WITHOUT any supplements. All of the supplements I've been tolerating have been over and above that 109.
So I'll be weaning myself down over the next week simply because I don't want to surprise or shock my body at all.
But you know what? I'm kinda pissed. I contacted the clinic a long time ago and said I really hate these things, do I really need them? They didn't test my levels. I told them that it was a financial hardship so could I just get them a few days at a time until we decide if I need them or not. No, they wanted me to get the full supply. At least they were willing to give me a months worth of samples to offset the financial hardship. But now that I'm not going to need them, I can't return them! All that medication is going to go waste because they wouldn't test whether or not I actually needed a medication before insisting that I take the medication.
How many weeks worth of unnecessary medications, at $5 per dose, 3 doses per day, have I shoved into my body?
This is what I mean by I feel like I'm processed. I don't feel like the care I'm given has a damned thing to do with me or my individual body. Just so fucking indicative of everything I now hate about the clinic that was pretty awesome a year ago.
In other news, I chatted with the doctor quickly. Asked her that if I haven't bled yet, does that mean my body is reabsorbing the clot? She said if I don't bleed in about a week, that's what it would mean. So there's still a perfectly good chance I could start bleeding any time now. Lovely. I'm going to be working for an hour at a very guy heavy facility and then I'll probably be stuck in traffic for an hour or two. Guess what I think Murphy's Law is going to do to me later today.
Ultrasound in 5 days.
Thursday, December 1, 2011
The answers to every internet forum question ever
Because I'm doing nothing right now, I have a lot of time to participate in internet forums. Especially forums for pregnant people cuz let's face it, that's what I want to talk about right now.
People post so many life problems! And oh my goodness are the answers so freakin easy that I don't understand why people are claiming these are problems in the first place.
So for the sake of efficiency, I hereby write a list of answers to every problem ever. Be it a Dear Abby type of problem or a relationship problem, whatever, one of these answers will apply.
People post so many life problems! And oh my goodness are the answers so freakin easy that I don't understand why people are claiming these are problems in the first place.
So for the sake of efficiency, I hereby write a list of answers to every problem ever. Be it a Dear Abby type of problem or a relationship problem, whatever, one of these answers will apply.
- Say no. End of discussion. Reasons and why don't matter. If the answer is no, just say no.
- You don't have to be polite to people who are being rude to you. Feel free to respond to that jerk accordingly and don't feel bad about it. They were the rude assholes first, standing up for yourself makes you smart, not a jerk.
- People on the internet can't diagnose your medical issues. Call the damned doctor if your body does something that freaks you out.
- You can Google it a lot faster than the rest of us can. Ask Professor Google before asking us.
- Move out and get your own place or tolerate the twit you live with.
- Leave the bastard. A good relationship requires good people entering it. If he's a jackass or she's just a bitch, you can't fix it so get the fuck out. If you always end up with a bitch/jackass, the other person probably isn't really the problem.
- Your kids will grow up to do what you do. Don't tolerate a relationship that wouldn't be good enough for your kid or they will be doomed to repeat it.
- If they make you feel like crap, there's no reason to remain friends/lovers with them. Most friends aren't friends, they are just people we are in close proximity with and we call them friends for lack of actually choosing who we want in our lives as friends. You are not required to maintain a friendship with someone with whom you have nothing in common and who's company you do not enjoy.
- If at any point in the discussion of your problem you utter the phrase "but I looooooves him" you immediately relinquish all rights to be treated as though you have an IQ larger than your shoe size.
- Do not sign it until you have read it and fully understand every line in it.
- You can fix bankrupt, you can't fix dead. Don't stay somewhere dangerous for financial reasons.
- If it takes more than 3 sentences to describe all of the complicated factors in your problem because it's so intricate, no it's not. It's pointless drama. Grow the fuck up.
- If the offer is now or never, go with never. A good offer will still be available after you've thought about it.
- Write like a grown up if you want people to respond to you. I don't care how much your friends can read text speak, if it's not on your phone, it's stupid and you look stupid for using it. Since we have no other way of judging you, you are being judged online by your writing skills. Either get you some, or shut the fuck up and make room for the grown-ups to talk.
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