I can probably count the number of actual arguments my hubby and I have had in our relationship on one hand. But we had one today.
K's main source of a social life is performing in plays. I totally get that. My social life used to be the exact same thing. There's an itch to perform when you haven't done it for a while.
But we're into the injection stage of our FET. We're supposed to do a Lupron injection every day between 7-9pm according to the calendar our doctor gave us. We've already had to change the schedule to after 10pm every night because on that first night K didn't get home from work until after 10pm.
Rehearsals can run late. And people go out for drinks after rehearsals sometimes. And when K isn't home, I turn off the tv and dvr the shows that we like so we can watch them together later. When he's in a show, I'm at home, alone all day, and all evening. He'll get home around 5pm from work, grab a bite to eat, be back out the door by 6:30pm, and then get home again after 10pm.
I work from home on the rare occasion that I have work (it's starting to pick up again, yay!). I don't have much of a social life, especially since my primary social outlet went bonkers and dumped me last November. Honestly, I don't mind so much. I don't have much of a social need.
K is different, he's a very social person. He does need that social outlet apart from work. I get that, I really really do.
But come on. While we're baby making, I need his ass home. I'm being chemically programmed to be depressed, lonely, frustrated, and cranky (damned Lupron) and actually being alone will make that a lot worse. And once I am pregnant, I'm going to be terrified of needing to go to the hospital at any moment in time because the last time was such a surprise.
We had a break in the baby making. A period of time when we weren't doing IVF, we weren't pregnant, nothing to worry about. And he did a show during that period. It's not like it's been years or something since he's had a chance to scratch that itch, he just closed a show last week!
If we were capable of making a baby over the course of a single 15 minute round of romance, you can bet your ass I would have his full, 100% attention during that process. Well, it takes us about 6 weeks. And I need his full, 100% attention during the ENTIRE baby creation process.