My Story

The chronicle of the journey from infertility, to miscarriage, to finally raising twin girls born in June 2012.

Wednesday, July 30, 2014


What comes out of their mouths:  What they mean.

Naked Baby:  It's time for a bath!  Can we have a bath now please please please?!?!?!  We're gonna pitch a royal fit when you go into the bathroom to run that bath without us you know.

Gwish:  It's fucking hot in here.  Get out that spray bottle, let's sit in front of the AC and make it rain Mom.

Ah Dun:  I realize I look like Einstein but stop trying to brush my hair!  No!  No clips or bobby pins!  I don't want to be able to see!!!  Now look at what you've done.  I'm on the floor screaming!

Shoes:  It's time to go outside, I love going outside!  Until I'm outside, then it sucks.

Boom Boom:  I want to sit in your leg while you sing the bump bump song and bounce me wildly.  Halfway through a bump, I'm going to decide I'm done and slide off your leg.

Tie-ee Uh Tie:  It's tidy up time!  Here's the game plan.  Middie Biddie, you gather every small thing within walking distance and put it in this container.  Teeny Tiny, when she gets the last one in, you dump it all out.  And go!

Uppy:  Dog (puppy).  Not funny, but it's really cute when she says it.

Buhsh!:  I want my toothbrush!  It's my favorite toy EVER!!!!!  (Seriously, what's up with this?  All day, she wants a toothbrush and actually uses it for her teeth.  The appearance of a toothbrush will stop almost any tantrum.  We have a dozen of them floating around the house in various states of cleanliness at this point)

Book:  Here Mom, you need a solid thing of cardboard to hit you in the face.  Oh don't bother reading it, I'm off to get another one!

Middie Biddie - Ahhhhhhhhhh (deep breath)  AHHHHHHHHH:  Teeny Tiny stole my fill in the blank.  AGAIN!

Teeny Tiny - Ahhhhhhhhhhhhh:  I am displeased by one of the oxygen molecules I just inhaled.  It must be remedied immediately and I will be screaming until said oxygen molecule is no longer residing within my body.

Thursday, July 24, 2014

Well that's handy

Did a little test of Middie Biddies receptive language today.  I gave her two water cups and told her to give one to her sister, and she did!!!  She walked to the other side of the room, gave a cup to her sister, and came back!  My kids are old enough to understand and accomplish tasks!  I'll try to use this new found power for good instead of evil.

Language skills are doing a leap right now.  As usual, Middie Biddie kind of creeps along on her skill set while Teeny Tiny takes sudden jumps.  They are still approaching language as they have been all along, Middie Biddie with a blanket approach and Teeny Tiny learning individual words.  Right now, it seems like Teeny Tiny is farther along because she's able to communicate several desires using a word or two.  

However, Middie Biddie does verbal approximations of entire songs and books.  She will often sing Twinkle Twinkle Little Star all the way through and most of the words sound correct (still inching closer to the right words).  So Teeny Tiny can ask for a brush or to go round and round (spinning on Daddy's chair), Middie Biddie doesn't feel the need to tell us she wants these things, she just shows us and then goes and sings a whole song.  Fortunately, she's not tone deaf like her father and can actually carry a tune.  She also seems further along on her receptive language in that she'll carry out a more complex set of instructions than Teeny Tiny.  

But of course, she has to ask for the one thing she will use her words for in the most potentially embarrassing way possible.  When K and I would do baths, one of us would get the bath ready and then call out "I need a naked baby!"  Then the other of us would strip one down and send her in.  We found that yelling out "Nay-Kid-BayyyyyBayyyy!" was kind of fun to do so we would do it to entertain the girls whenever we stripped them down.  Guess how Middie Biddie let's us know that she would enjoy taking a bath at this time.  That's right, she starts yelling "NAKED BABY!!!!" over and over again getting really excited as she does it.  The girls have had a lot of extra baths because MB will shout naked baby, run to the gate, Teeny Tiny gets excited thinking the bath is ready and she's going to get to play, and then I have to climb over the gate to run the bath while they both cry because I went into the naked baby room without them.

So if you ever come over to my house and a child starts getting all hyper while shouting naked baby, no, nothing creepy has been going on, she just wants to sit in some water and pour a pitcher of it over her head.

Monday, July 14, 2014

Random parenting decision

As you may already know, I'm pretty much one of the most tense, paranoid moms on the planet.  I say "one of" because I know a mom even more paranoid than I am - my own mom.

I was so shielded from existence while growing up that as an adult, I'm pretty much scared all the time.  I'm afraid of anything new, even things as simple as going to a new restaurant, because I don't know what to expect and how things work.  I'm always afraid of making an ass of myself simply because I don't know how to function in some sort of situation.

In some ways, this is very beneficial as a parent.  This general fear of being caught somewhere unprepared has lead to some smart things like keeping an extra diaper bag in the car with all size cloth diapers, sippy cups, bottles of water, a change of clothing, and long lasting fruit pouches.  If somehow I end up stuck somewhere with the kids, I can change a diaper and give them a snack.  On the other hand, since I've always remembered to pack my purse or real diaper bag with the daily essentials in the year and a half that my girls have been able to eat real food, I haven't actually needed to dip into that bag, and only fed them the snacks from there to prevent them from getting too old.

By the way, if you run into me somewhere, I'm the person to ask for a spare tampon, diaper, box of raisins, swiss army knife, nail file/clippers, deodorant, whatever.  I've got a convenience store in my purse.  I'm handy that way.

I know I write about my general life fear a lot, so much that I've probably written this exact same blog post several times before, but that's because it's such a constant thing.  Every time I triumph over it some little tiny way, it's a victory to me.  My comfort zone is minuscule and I've lived almost 40 years pretty much operating within that comfort zone.

Now, even as a kid, I knew this was wrong.  Every time all of cousins were sent off to play at the beach and I heard my mom yell "Dad's Name, watch her!" I knew that there was something off about not being able to just play like other kids.  This is a part of what's lead to a lifelong overwhelming sense of inability.  All the other kids are capable of not dying as they go to play, why do I need the extra supervision?  Because I suck at life and am incapable of figuring things out I guess.

This deep rooted insecurity holds me back, A LOT.  I've been dealing with trying to find a job in the last few weeks and it's created some major emotional turmoil for me that I don't think K fully understands.  He doesn't understand that I'm terrified of anything new because even if it's a good thing, I'll somehow screw it up and it will backfire on me.  I picture things like parking wrong in downtown Seattle for the interview and coming back to find my car towed and not being able to get home or breaking the bank to get it back.  He just has no comprehension of the random fears that pop into my head and my incessant need to prepare for any possible thing that can go wrong before I attempt something as simple as driving somewhere I'm unfamiliar with.  Nothing seems to scare him, or make him uncomfortable.  It's one of the things I admire about him and really wish I could learn how to be that way myself.

I vowed from the time I was a kid not to do that to my kids.  Since becoming a mom, I've read about European parenting and how American moms are shocked to find three year olds up in trees or whittling a stick with a knife and how shocked we yankees are that the parents are cool with such dangerous activities for such youngsters.  I've read how it's this ability to let kids explore and possibly get hurt from time to time leads to more confident and capable adults.  I take those articles to heart because intellectually I agree with the philosophy.  Instinctually is another matter.

So I'm constantly at odds.  Keep my kids safe, but give them enough freedom to figure things out.  In this age of over the shoulder parenting, it's even more difficult to go with the European philosophy because I'm afraid that other parents will interpret my very thought out decisions to allow my kids to be in a little danger with negligence and then I'll have CPS at my door or something.  Reading the article about the mom who had to deal with a year of the threat of jail for leaving her kid to play with an ipad in the car for 5 minutes while she ran an errand, well that kind of thing terrifies me.  Todays parenting is SOOOOO much more restrictive than what I grew up with, and yet what I grew up with was far more restrictive than I think is healthy.  I want to raise my kids with more freedom than I had, yet the freedom I did have would now have society screaming "where was the mother!!!!".

Anyway, I've had a few wins in the expansion of my comfort zone this week.  Here they are:

  • Yesterday, I took the girls to a park I have never really seen before.  I play a game called Ingress and it's really been helping me find new parks and trails and stuff.  People tell me to take the girls for a walk and since my immediate neighborhood isn't stroller safe (no sidewalks), I haven't had a clue as to where I was supposed to be taking them for these mythical "walks" that people tell me about.  The game has shown me a lot of places in my neighborhood that I didn't know existed.  It's been android only for a while but the iphone version came out yesterday.  If you haven't heard of it before, you really should check it out.  If it can get me to explore new places and get my fat ass walking on occasion, it's something special.  Anyway, I had seen this park on the intel map several times, it's near my house and I never really knew it was there.  So I loaded up the girls in the van, and off we went.  I got them in the stroller, and set forth along the trail.  Doesn't sound like a big deal, right?  But to me it is a big deal.  One of my comfort zones - always being within a few minutes of either home or my car so if I find myself some place I don't like being, I can leave in an instant.  This is both due to fear of the unknown, and a complete hatred of all things exercise.  But yesterday, I got on the trail and committed myself to walking the entire loop knowing full well there were no paths through the middle that would allow me to escape if I wanted to.  Rewards:
    • The trail was lovely.  To my surprise, the girls didn't get pissy, I think they enjoyed seeing all the nature even if they were strapped to the stroller.
    • I got some exercise and didn't die.  My ankle wasn't too thrilled about it, but I did it anyway.
    • I ran into another ingress player and his family and we chatted for about a half hour.  Lots in common.  I might have some new friends!
    • They helped me get the stroller back up the gravel hill to my car.  With my bum ankle and general out of shapeness, I was dreading this final necessity.  In pushing the girls umbrella stroller up the hill, the mom said "oh yeah, this much weight up this hill, you would have had a rough time with a bad ankle, this is hard!"  Her stroller was more of an off-roading stroller and only one kid.  She's in shape, so having her say it was hard took away some of my "I suck" feeling since I assumed it was hard for me because I'm just such an incapable fat ass.  Nope, apparently it actually was hard for anybody.
  • Taking Teeny Tiny out alone, I learned that I AM capable of chilling out as a parent, that a lot of my tension really does come from having to keep 2 safe at a time.  Again, I took my tension as a personal failing, but it's really not all me.  A significant part of that is because I have twins which is truly a different parenting experience.  
  • A facebook post in my moms of multiples group wrote about how they look at all the kids having fun at the beach front parks and give a wistful sigh that they can't enjoy that park yet because there are no gates to contain twins.  It's not just me who feels that!  Then another mom piped in with how now that her twins are three, they are just now starting to tentatively venture out to these kinds of parks to test the waters.  Then a whole bunch of other twin moms saying "me too!" and "I thought I was the only paranoid freak who can't just let her kids play!  Singleton moms just don't get it!"  Nice to get some reassurance that it's not just me, it's my situation.  Hearing from other twin moms, and seeing myself loosen up as the girls get a bit older, well apparently I can look forward to being much more relaxed in a year or two when the girls are able to follow directions and actually learn how to keep themselves relatively safe.  Whether or not they'll choose to follow directions is a different story of course.  
    • A friend of mine who had her kids spaced pretty far apart sometimes gives me this look, kind of a rolling of the eyes and condescending smile at how tense I'm being trying to keep my kids within arms reach at the park and then she'll take one of my kids to play somewhere to help me out.  It's really been making me feel kind of crappy and judged.  Now that I have some reassurance that really, most twin moms are like this and she really doesn't get it since she's never had to deal with two toddlers at a time, I'm going to need to mention this to her and ask her to stop.  You just don't understand the thought process that goes into being able to rescue two that might need rescuing at any given moment.  You can't allow one kid to trap you by sitting on your lap while the other one goes to play because it means you're physically incapable of running to the other one if necessary (like Teeny Tiny who enjoys running into the path of someone on a swing).  You don't understand that constant assessment of the situation like a twin mom because if your kid is on your lap, you just have your kid on your lap!  If they are different ages, then the older one can probably be somewhat controlled by voice as in "stop or you'll get kicked!" so it's still ok to have one on your lap and keep you relatively trapped.  These are things you simply can not do with two children who have just turned 2 and don't yet know how to respond to voice commands.  The learning process is also slower because you aren't able to give them as much freedom to run off which gives you the opportunity to teach them NOT to run off.  A 2 year old singleton is likely going to be a little farther along on that particular learning curve than a 2 year old twin.  So seriously my friend, I love you, but quit rolling your eyes at me.  It's hurting my feelings.
  • I was out grocery shopping yesterday and saw a pair of parents kind of frantically fidgeting their fingers in their babies mouth.  So I asked "teething?"  Nope, the kid had gotten some paper into her mouth and they were afraid it would hurt her.  They had that very first time parent frantic thing going on and I was actually able to calm them down a little bit.  Me!  I calmed other parents down!  The kid was 8 months old but looked more like 8 weeks old.  Just a little slip of a thing (healthy though) wearing 3m size clothing.  Just like my own kids were at that age.  I asked if she has been given solids yet, how big was the piece of paper she ate, and then I was able to convince them that it was such a small piece of paper and her stomach is starting to digest new things, she probably won't feel thing.  Of all the foreign objects she's going to eat over the next few months while learning to crawl, a tiny scrap of paper is the easiest for her system to deal with.  Can you believe it?  I was the "meh, she'll be fine" mom!
  • Middie Biddie is starting to climb.  She's been in daddy's chair a few times and today climbed onto their activity table.  First instinct was to yell "get down!" and take her off these things for fear she'd fall.  But I suppressed that instinct and let her be on these things.  I asked "do you know how to get down?" and just kept an eye out in case she found herself stuck and needed help getting down.  She figured it out fine.  I informed K last night that she can now climb on his chair so he needs to keep things much further out of reach on his desk.  Look at me, allowing her to do things even though my instincts are screaming at me to tie her a pile of nice safe pillows on the floor!
  • As I was typing this, Middie Biddie brought me a package of chopped macadamia nuts she found on the kitchen counter.  
    • First instinct - oh crap, how did you reach that!  I have to go check what else might be in reach on that counter!  
    • What I actually did - opened the package and gave her some.
  • I went on a job interview in way downtown Seattle.  I found a place to park and did pretty good at talking to new people who were there for the sole purpose of judging me.  It's too bad that the math works out that even if I were offered that job, it would actually cost me money to work there.  But in a bold move, I proposed a different job as a freelancer doing occasional overflow work from time to time to supplement the person they are able to hire for this position.  I saw the wheels turn and who knows, it might turn into something.  As I was leaving, one of my worst fears realized.  I went the wrong way down a one way street!!  It was only about 10 feet, and someone passing me called out their window "wrong way!"  I didn't freak out (ok, maybe a little), realized that the "street" was only about 10 feet long and I was already somewhere that I could turn to get on a street going the correct direction.  Thus the reason I hate downtown Seattle - it's full of little places where you can find yourself going the wrong way or suddenly going up a major hill that some cars can't handle, traffic and pedestrians, ugh, I just hate it.  But I did it, I messed up, and I survived.
  • After having the girls trapped in the car for a little while because I was looking for a park the other day and not finding it, I parked my car across the end of my driveway to create a bit of a barrier to the street and let the girls loose with some sidewalk chalk.  From time to time, I actually allowed one or both of them to go around the corner out of my sight without freaking out.  I planted my butt firmly on the ground to prevent myself from running around like a crazy person and to only chase if absolutely necessary.  After a minute I would call out to come back where I can see you and they usually did.
  • I bought a few treats for the girls to have.  I'm so afraid that they are going to be picky eaters and only ever want chocolate and carbs like me that I've been pretty strict about their food.  When they were little and only ate a few bites a day, I was pretty adamant that those bites have some sort of nutritional benefit.  I'm starting to realize that they do have a pretty healthy diet and now eat enough that not every single morsel needs to be perfect.  To ease into loosening up, I bought some frozen chocolate covered bananas from the ice cream aisle.  I also got a popsicle tray so I can make some treats to beat the heat.  
    • Quick tip since I love re-purposing things.  You know those tall thin bottles that we were all given with our breast pumps?  I made too much smoothie not to long ago and I filled those with the leftover, stuck a straw in the middle, put saran wrap over the top with a hole for the straw to help hold it upright, and boom!  Smoothie popsicles!  Just run the bottle under some water to loosen it up and it pulls right out.
Ok, I realize that reading this blog post, most of you are probably wondering just what the fuck my issues are since these victories are things you can all do without a second thought.  Yes, I know I have problems.  This blog post is just me recognizing those problems and giving myself a little credit for doing things that normal people can do, but that make me uncomfortable.  For pushing myself beyond my itty bitty comfort zone.  Kind of like a hoarder patting herself on the back for throwing out a candy wrapper.  It may be a normal, daily thing for you to do, but these things are hard for me.

Monday, July 7, 2014

When I have just one

Today I took Teeny Tiny to the doctor to look at her feet while my mother stayed with Middie Biddie at home.  She appears to have my toe issues which have caused me some pain so we're keeping an eye on how the bones in her feet are developing.  She's fine by the way, that's not what this post is about.

This post is about how I am a completely different mother when I only have one child.  It was amazing!

I arrived a solid 15 minutes early rather than 5 minutes late like I've been doing lately.  Not having to fuss to get both into car seats, make sure I have enough entertainment and snacks for two, just getting out the door was remarkably easy!

She spent the whole car ride perfectly happy with the toy I gave her.  When there's both of them, they each look at what the other one has, wants that so they throw away the toy they do have, can't reach the other one, and meltdown ensues.  With no other toddler for distraction, she just played with her toy as happy as could be.

When we got there, I didn't bother with a stroller or anything because for a change, I didn't feel the need to keep anyone contained.  Knowing that I could grab a hand if she tried to bolt suddenly made me much less nervous about a toddler bolting.  We simply got out of the car and went inside.  Incredible!  It's usually such a fuss just to get from the car to the door of a building.  But not when you only have 1!

Then inside, I was able to check her in and it didn't bother me when she ran to the other side of the lobby to check out the toys.  Normally I don't allow them more than a few feet from me because I'm so nervous about them both getting into something at the same time that they shouldn't be getting into.  What would have totally stressed me out if I had both of them didn't bother me one bit with just one.

I could sit in the doctors office and let her explore knowing how easy it would be to turn her away from things she shouldn't touch.  I didn't have to try to keep her (and her sister) entertained in one spot.

Then we went off to a quick appointment for me, and again, no problem!  Whipped out the single umbrella stroller and I could go through doors easily, maneuver on a dime, play, just so totally different from the double stroller.  I didn't feel all claustrophobic just trying to get through a normal sized hallway.

After the girls nap, I took them to the local coffee shop with a toddler play area and it was back to business as usual. I chatted for a moment with a mom of 3 year old twins and as Teeny Tiny got away from me and started climbing into the fountain while I was trying to convince Middie Biddie to stand on her feet rather than lie on the ground when holding my hand, she gave me the line I've been giving new twin moms for the last year, "it gets better".  I told her how remarkably easy it was when I just had one this morning and she said "Oh, don't ever do that.  Once you've experienced how easy it is with just one, it makes the difficulty of two that much harder!"

I'm not always the mom I want to be.  I want to be fun.  I want to encourage exploration.  But with two, I'm not that mom.  I found out today that with one, I am that mom.  It kind of makes me sad some times.  But it's good to know that I am capable of being that mom and that it's not so much that I'm an anal retentive freak, but that being tense and and a bit stressed out and keeping everyone corralled is just how you have to be to keep twins safe.  Dealing with two isn't twice as hard, the difficulty seems to multiply beyond that.  You have no idea how much the ability to focus has on your personality until you've spent 2 years never being able to completely focus on anything.  The lack of distraction and being able to just keep one safe allows SOOOOO much more freedom than when you have to keep track of two!  I think on K's days off I'm going to be more spontaneous and just grab one kid and go somewhere.

Friday, July 4, 2014

Twin Mom Math

Due to all of the financial investment to get pregnant, K and I kind of came into parenthood limping financially.  Having two babies to provide for hasn't exactly improved our financial situation at all and we're looking at ways to fix this.

The obvious solution is for me to go back to work.  I'm trying to figure out the logistics of getting a job that would actually earn more income than it would cost in day care expenses.  This is fucking hard!  So what I'm going to do is crunch a whole bunch of numbers of various scenarios and let you watch as I try to figure this out.

The given factors -

  • K's work schedule is not a standard week day work schedule.  This can work with us or against us.  His average week allows him to be home 2 week days and 1 half week day, then being at work during the standard working hours about 4 days (two of those being the weekend).
  • My skills are administrative, and due to a long absence from the work force, I'm looking at entry level positions.  
  • We have 2 toddlers that would require some sort of reliable daycare.
  • After taxes, I estimate taking home approximately $.70 of every $1 I earn.
  • I'm having trouble finding any online pricing for local day cares, but what little information I have found indicates that I'd be looking at roughly $7 per hour, per child. 
  • Just to have a number of some sort, I'm going to say that commuting will cost approximately $1,000 a year in gas.
  • Minimum wage in my state is currently $9.32 per hour.
Here we go.

If I got a full time job, standard 9-5 work day, assuming a half hour of travel on each side.  That's 45 hours per week that I am unavailable for child care.  Let's assume that K can be home for 2.5 days a week.  We would need approximately 25 hours of day care.  So 25x2x7 = $350 weekly daycare cost.  350 / 40 work hours = $8.75 dollars per work hour going straight to daycare.  To put $8.75 per hour in my pocket after taxes, my job would have to pay $12.50 per hour.  That's an annual salary of 12.5 x 40 x 50 (work weeks per year) of $25,000.  

So that's the baseline.  To work full time, a job paying an annual salary of $26k, or an hourly wage of $13 per hour (I factored in gas money) would put exactly zero dollars into our bank account.  K and I would never have the same day off, and I would spend approximately 75% of my children's weekly waking hours away from them.

This is only IF we can assume that K's work schedule would allow him to be home for half of the standard work week days.  If his schedule doesn't work out that way for a week or two (like this coming week where he's covering for a sick colleague), day care will cost even more.

That was so depressing that I was forced to tidy up the living room before coming back to crunch more numbers.

Working full time at my employment level just doesn't seem feasible.  Every time I approach the idea of finding some sort of employment, the numbers just bitch slap me back into stay at home submission.

If I found a job offering $20 an hour, we would only actually see $5.25 of that.  Every day away from the job I actually wanted of raising my kids, and the profit would be $42.  And where in this economy is there a job for $20 an hour???

So I'm trying to find something part time that can work around K's schedule.  Something that would allow me to earn SOMETHING without costing us in daycare.  That allows about 15-20 hours a week.  Mostly on K's days off with a few hours here and there of family watching the girls on those odd days when our schedules would overlap.

I've applied for a work at home position.  I checked it out, it's a legit thing.  They require 4-5 hours of work per day, which I could likely do in chunks of time while the girls are sleeping.  2 hours in the afternoon at nap time and then 3 hours a day once K gets home or the girls go to bed at night.  It's a project job, lasting probably about 4-6 months and pays a few cents above minimum wage.  I interviewed a few days ago and was told that they'd like to offer me the position, that my information would be passed on to the client who would contact me regarding the training.  My parents are on stand by to watch the girls for a couple of days of onsite training next week.  But that was Tuesday, it's now a holiday Friday and I haven't heard back regarding the scheduling, so maybe the next level of weeding out candidates has weeded me out and decided not to hire me.  I don't know.  There are currently three adults (myself and my parents) who are keeping their schedules open waiting to find out more.

Here's what's really got me down.  The Dairy Queen down the street is hiring.  The Dairy Queen I worked at for my first job when I was 15 years old.  Assuming minimum wage, at 20 hours a week that we could somehow work around K's schedule, that would put approximately $130 into our pockets a week.  Gas would be nothing since it's only a mile away from home.  To put that same money into our pockets working a full time job, I would have to earn $16.75 per hour, or an annual salary of $33,500.  I've put in 20-25 years of employment history, have a bachelors degree, and I'm seriously considering the night shift at Dairy Queen to be my best financial move.  And I'm afraid to apply for the job because I'd be competing with candidates who don't have any scheduling complications to worry about.

I don't drink, but I'm seriously thinking of cracking open a bottle of wine and spending the evening crying once K gets home.

Thursday, July 3, 2014

Twin tip - bright matching coats

I'm not a big fan of matchy matchy twins.  When I can, I prefer to buy the same thing in different colors so that are different, but equal.  But when I bought some lightweight hoodies for the girls, they only had one color in the proper size.  I'm not a fan of neon either, but that's what they had, so that's what the girls got.

I've discovered that these really were the best option available.  When I take the girls out to play somewhere, I can see them amongst the crowd.  Today, I took the girls to the play area in the mall and after a while I heard this conversation going on amongst some of the parents behind me:

"That little girl sure is all over the place.  I keep seeing her.....wait, oh....wait!  There's TWO of them!  Oh no wonder!  Are they...twins??"  So I confirmed that yes, they are twins.

But here's where it gets good.  For some reason, people think they are so clever that they have identified a pair of twins.  Suddenly, just about every parent in the place was keeping an eye on my kids for me!  With the various play structures, it was impossible to see every nook and cranny of the place, so whenever I got that "mom scanning in the room in search of her child" look on my face, someone immediately pointed out where my missing kid was.  I was able to say to a group of moms sitting at a slightly different angle "I can't see the exit from here, will you let me know if one of these pink coats runs for it?" and they all nodded and cast an eye on that exit for me.

It really is one of the benefits of being the different one in the crowd, everyone is curious about you so they generally have an eye on you.  As a family of twins, everyone kind of looks to see what's going on.  With two toddlers going through the learning curve necessary to remain within boundaries and within sight, this is an awesome thing.