The girls are having trouble with their naps. Teeny Tiny is still very much wanting two naps, but Middie Biddie barely wants to take one. It used to be that their first nap was 90 minutes, almost exactly, every day. Then the second nap would be about 3 hours later and last anywhere from 30-120 minutes.
But now Middie Biddie is waking up after an hour and she's stuck in the crib until Teeny Tiny wakes up sometime in the next 30 minutes. Ok, fine, no big deal. But then Teeny Tiny is rubbing her eyes and wanting to go back to bed after about 2 hours of awake time and Middie Biddie won't let her.
I've been trying holding out until Middie Biddie also demonstrates that she's tired, and today I said screw it and put them both down after only 90 minutes of awake time because Teeny Tiny just seemed exhausted. It seems that no matter what I do, the same thing happens - no second nap because Middie Biddie wants to chat so they play instead. They end up spending over 2 hours in the crib because they're playing, will occasionally nod off for 5-10 minutes so I think a nap is going to happen, and then more playing.
Now here's where I'm torn. On the one hand, they are spending a significant amount of their day in their cribs being ignored by me. Especially if they do fall asleep right around the time I'm about to give up and go get them which adds another 1-2 hours to their crib time. On the other hand, I'm not hearing any complaints from them either. They are happily playing with each other, babbling back and forth and sometimes getting some rest too.
Is this awful of me? To leave them "alone" in their cribs for so much of the day? Is playing there much different from playing out here in the living room?
When it comes to playing out here, they don't interact with each other a whole lot, they mostly focus on their toys and on me. In the cribs, it's full on sisterly bonding. They throw their loveys out of their cribs within minutes and are only left with each other to play with.
Here are a few highlights from todays "nap".
One day I love that because they are twins and keep each other company, we don't have the crib problems that other parents have and I can leave them in there a little bit longer because they won't get unhappy about it, and the next day I'm feeling guilty that I'm not spending more time with them. So what the hell is a mom to do? Enjoy the fact that they can spend a couple of hours perfectly happy without me and do all the things a person wants to do with spare time? Or do I feel like crap that they are spending so much time confined to these little spaces without me there and beating myself up trying to figure out how to get them to use that time for sleep? These are not rhetorical questions!