My Story

The chronicle of the journey from infertility, to miscarriage, to finally raising twin girls born in June 2012.

Saturday, August 23, 2014

The dial goes to 11

Oh good lord!  It's like someone flipped a switch and girls suddenly realized they are 2 and must begin acting like it!

Everything around me seems to be flipping on its ear.  K is job/career hunting.  Fortunately he's safe where he is, but he's ready to try to find more.

At the same time, I'm trying to find some significant part time work.  I've found a legit work at home job that allows me to work a little bit, but of course it's difficult to work when the girls want my attention and due to security issues, I'm not supposed to do the work in public places (like a coffee

shop).  So while it seemed like a perfect solution, it's working out to be a "meh" solution.  I may have stumbled onto a solution to that today.  When I went to a coffee shop that has free daycare, the antivirus on my phone asked if I wanted to download an add on that would allow a secure connection.  I'm checking that out and if it works, it means I'll be able to take the girls down to the Y or to the grocery store, take advantage of an hour or so of free daycare while I sit in connected lobbies and coffee shops to work.  I also had a phone interview yesterday with an in person interview next week.  It seems very promising.  About 15 hours a week, flexible schedule, keep your fingers crossed.

As for the girls, I don't even know where to start.  I guess we'll start with language.  Teeny Tiny has exploded with language, able to identify just about everything around her, make requests (againnnn???? so cute) and is generally understanding a lot more.  Middie Biddie is still more of a singer than a speaker, but individual words are starting to creep into her vocabulary.

They are no longer satisfied in the house.  Well, at least Middie Biddie isn't.  She goes to the gates and cries and just wants out.  I think there are a couple of things going on with her.  The first and most obvious, she's simply bored and wants to explore all the things we've prevented her from exploring thus far.

The other may not be quite as obvious but possibly bigger problem is the whole introvert/extrovert thing.  I really think Middie Biddie wants to simply have some time to herself, to focus on a toy, to interact with one person on her terms.  However, she has this extroverted twin that's making these desires very difficult.  The moment she looks at anything, her sister comes barreling over to see and take what it is she finds so interesting.  MB will be happily playing with a toy and Teeny Tiny will run over and give her a ball and practically sit on top of her to get her to play.  MB simply gets no peace.  She can't even sit in a chair without TT coming over to sit on top of her in it.

Our house is basically one giant room with a couple of bedrooms.  I'm not comfortable letting the girls play behind a closed door because that means someone doesn't have my eyes on them.  So that means that anywhere MB can get to, so can TT.  For an introvert, this is kind of a nightmare.  I get it, I understand her problem and what has her so stressed all the time, but I haven't figured out how to solve it.

We now have to completely redo the structure of the house.  MB climbed over a gate today meaning everything that we had safely outside of the gates is now fair game and the gates have to come down.  So the first thing we've done is start reorganizing and baby proofing the kitchen.  This became necessary because MB will just scream at the gate until we let her go in to explore.  It's been a very messy week.  We've done our best to move all of the plastic items to reachable shelves and drawers and all of the breakable, sharp, and heavy items up out of reach.  I hardly know how to function in there at the moment.

The other thing we've done is to curtain off my office/girls play room.  I'm kind of hoping that this will allow MB to kind of escape out of sight out of mind style and get a little bit of peace from TT.  We just put the curtain up last night and I took the girls out for most of their morning, so they haven't really figured it out yet.  There were some peekaboo games with it, we'll see how it goes.

Teeny Tiny had a rough week of teething at least one of her second year molars.  About 4 days of just screaming in pain, drool dripping from her mouth, the occasional drop of blood from her gums.  It was just awful.  But she seems to have survived and is much better now!

Behavior wise, they are changing again.  Becoming much more frustrating.  Throwing things when they're mad, that kind of thing.  We're at the beginning of a very long discipline learning curve.  Things were pretty easy before last month because they had a desire to cooperate.  Just show them what you want and they would want it too.  That's no longer the case.  We don't even get snuggles at bedtime anymore, they spend 20 minutes giggling and chasing each other around the room while we sit and watch them burn off the energy.  The real work of parenting toddlers begins.


  1. Ugh! Okay so I know what I have to look forward to in about 22 months.

  2. Ugh, I could have written this about my own daughter. She is 2 1/2 and just this month has decided that she needs to start acting it. Whew! It's taking more than all of my patience & I pregnant to boot!

    You go Mama!


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