tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1574605296259081338.post8908953718533777779..comments2023-09-09T05:13:17.402-07:00Comments on First Time Twins: Do twins run in your family?Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03834196556216136587noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1574605296259081338.post-66801027089998924962012-05-01T09:48:41.669-07:002012-05-01T09:48:41.669-07:00I am always honest, say yes we did know that we we...I am always honest, say yes we did know that we were having twins. We were surprised but not shocked as it was the second time I was pregnant with twins but lost the first set. Most people move right on with the other questions...Identical/fraternal, hands full, blah, blah, blah.Flmgodoghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10552638885168223394noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1574605296259081338.post-13579581052599669552012-04-28T08:20:24.449-07:002012-04-28T08:20:24.449-07:00You could always say something like "no, and ...You could always say something like "no, and we feel so lucky but also so scared - two screaming babies!" Then the conversation will probably turn to the person giving you advice about babies and s/he'll forget entirely about the original question.Sometimeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12671391512819360236noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1574605296259081338.post-73561476323159616052012-04-27T19:26:28.885-07:002012-04-27T19:26:28.885-07:00When it comes to complete strangers I would just k...When it comes to complete strangers I would just keep my answer short. Yep, it looks like twins run in the family (now!).<br /><br />I learned this lesson when I was babysitting my niece when she was a baby. I toted her into Starbucks and babies are so cute, complete strangers just want to stare at the baby and they don't hesitate to strike up a conversation. The woman behind me in line told me how cute my baby was and then asked me how old she was. As I awkwardly tried to explain that she is just my niece. I am just babysitting, but thank you she is cute isn't she. I realized that I was totally over explaining the situation. The woman behind me wisely told me I could just pretend for the day. The rest of the day I went around accepting compliments on my sweet niece as if she were my own. It seriously I made life so much easier.Mrs. Fhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10796890477396571476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1574605296259081338.post-19558175124479321882012-04-27T00:21:45.022-07:002012-04-27T00:21:45.022-07:00I have been watching your blog for awhile, but I j...I have been watching your blog for awhile, but I just started following :)<br />(I'm from the July board "notlettinggo")<br />I think it's crazy that you don't have twins in your family, and yet you're having them! My Dad is a twin, so I thought my chances were pretty high of having twins of my own. After being pregnant 4 times (3 m/c) I never once conceived twins!<br />I love that you're willing to be so honest. It's what makes you one of my favorite people on the July board :) I think it's great that you would give an honest answer, those babies deserve to be remembered and talked about anyway!waitingforarainbowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03312022219398776376noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1574605296259081338.post-3245868795486837932012-04-26T17:51:42.456-07:002012-04-26T17:51:42.456-07:00I am the same way and had and still have a difficu...I am the same way and had and still have a difficult time aswering "do you have any children?". the fact that I carried my son for 6 months, was in labor for 18 hours and still have an epidural pain, I always want to say YES! I do. But the "he passed at birth" response is usually not taken well. Oh well. Tough shit.<br /><br />Its funny, I know a bunch of people with twins Living in NYC, there are tons of twins and I usually assume fetility so I don't even bother asking if they run in family.... but I think you should try practicing what feels right. I think this is such an amazing dilema. I can't wait until the girls are here. Its getting close!!Taniahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01106515721683546752noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1574605296259081338.post-43423204377477880042012-04-26T15:00:51.383-07:002012-04-26T15:00:51.383-07:00Want to really wigg them out? Tell them you had n...Want to really wigg them out? Tell them you had no clue you had conceived at all you only remember a bright light and a probe. Okay so we all know the bright light was the transfer room at SRM and the probe was the transfer catheter but its more fun to just mess with their minds.Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06316511791499949824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1574605296259081338.post-82089204277780494892012-04-26T08:06:19.767-07:002012-04-26T08:06:19.767-07:00My suggestion as a parent of twins, is just don...My suggestion as a parent of twins, is just don't go there. You don't want to go into a discussion about IVF with random strangers when you have two crying babies at Target and you just need to get your diapers and get the hell out of there. I'm not ashamed of needing to do IVF, anymore than I would be ashamed of needing medical intervention to fight cancer, but I don't think it is anyone's business in the check out line either. Politely say no, and when they ask you if you needed 'those fertility drugs like octomom' say 'no'...unless you have the time or the inclination for a debate. I used to be honest, but seriously, the check out line is not the place.Chickenpighttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09442755180328605920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1574605296259081338.post-36293690686331323422012-04-26T06:44:26.449-07:002012-04-26T06:44:26.449-07:00I also can't lie, and I also often give TMI. ...I also can't lie, and I also often give TMI. I have gotten this question a lot and I say something like "No, we were doing fertility treatments - and we were actually relieved it was 'only' twins because it could have been triplets!" That usually lightens it. It's true - we had 3 eggs, it could have been triplets. Holy moly. Sometimes people will ask more questions about fertility treatments but most people will leave it at that and talk about twins and blah blah all the people they know with twins and blah.robinhttp://polycysticinside.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1574605296259081338.post-70005144781916581752012-04-25T20:39:36.364-07:002012-04-25T20:39:36.364-07:00Yep, you'll be hearing that question a lot. Mr...Yep, you'll be hearing that question a lot. Mrrp. I find when I get it, a bit of humor along with the truth tends to go a long way. Them "Were you surprised its twins?" Me: "Nope, not entirely surprised! We did IUI and we were super lucky to get two for the price of one!" (or "we had a little help..." because I often have to explain what IUI is if I name it *sigh* People are more aware about IVF). The good thing is after you answer the follow-up question, they typically move on. I've had very few people dig any deeper after I say we had help/used IUI. And once you have the babies, they'll move quickly on to other questions that you might as well get prepared to hear a thousand times (are they identical? how do you tell them apart? how EVER do you manage?) ;)Gemini Mommahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08409428109902242679noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1574605296259081338.post-27259900477853419622012-04-25T19:08:32.024-07:002012-04-25T19:08:32.024-07:00I would just say, "Nope, but we conceived via...I would just say, "Nope, but we conceived via IVF so we were really hoping for twins". It allows you to end on a positive which focuses on the girls rather than you and your issues. This helps keep the conversation ball rolling even though you've just divulged something fairly personal. <br /><br />Honestly I don't think it's such a huge deal these days (although maybe it depends on where you live and who you're talking to). People know what IVF is, they know it's more likely to result in twins, and since more and more women are having babies at an older age, chances are whoever you are talking to is going to know someone else who has had fertility treatments.<br /><br />What I always find more of a conversation killer is when people ask me about my daughter "is she your first child?" Then I have to decide whether to respond with the truth or a lie, the truth being "Nope, she has an older brother who is dead". No way to put a positive spin on that one.Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17587287197734518952noreply@blogger.com