tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1574605296259081338.post2599140045706363682..comments2023-09-09T05:13:17.402-07:00Comments on First Time Twins: New Years ResolutionsAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03834196556216136587noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1574605296259081338.post-74783117398835477442014-01-11T17:08:29.506-08:002014-01-11T17:08:29.506-08:00I think you are doing a awesome job. You help me s...I think you are doing a awesome job. You help me so much and I am sure many others. Give yourself a break. I love that you and K are going to shut off the computers and talk. It is hard when you are home all day in baby world I find myself looking for something besides poop to talk about. You are my hero! Wendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09791895225152618868noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1574605296259081338.post-1681750019457947162014-01-05T16:36:39.601-08:002014-01-05T16:36:39.601-08:00I've followed your blog ever since I found you...I've followed your blog ever since I found you when I was pregnant with my son after being told for over 7 years I'd never have kids. I think you could help more people than you could dream of. Most of what you were blogging about, I related to so much. I did not suffer a loss but I went through the horrible trials of infertility, losing weight, the judging doctors, until I finally found the right one. <br /><br />Find the right balance for yourself. Putting yourself out there is a huge thing. I've learned over and over again that people who judge really just don't matter. They don't particularly matter to anyone and I think that's why the judge everything (note I'm not talking about the random things we judge every day but people who make their entire lives about judging others, usually those they call "friends"). And they tend to be completely and utterly miserable. Don't let these people drag you down. Being a parent has brought me untold levels of self confidence. I've had such an easy time telling these people to eat it lately because I'm a dang good momma and so are you! Your kids are wonderful. All you have to do is look at your pictures. There is no mistaking happy children. I can absolutely tell when I'm around those that are not. It's not that they cry all the time, they just have an inner discontentment and they never display the pure joy that truly happy children do. And your girls definitely have the look of happiness. So do whatever you need to do, but if you accomplish just one of those things, I hope you celebrate and you are happy with yourself. You definitely have a lot to offer people and the way you do it is so helpful. You are not condescending, I don't feel like you ever think that your way is better than someone else's and in the business of children and parenting you don't come across that often.<br /><br />Good luck!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1574605296259081338.post-28571062795426114532014-01-05T12:55:42.557-08:002014-01-05T12:55:42.557-08:00I think people will find your book interesting, es...I think people will find your book interesting, especially the tips to infertiles and first time moms.Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06316511791499949824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1574605296259081338.post-3830902725387925802014-01-05T12:08:50.722-08:002014-01-05T12:08:50.722-08:00I think these sound like great ideas! You can tot...I think these sound like great ideas! You can totally do it!<br /><br />FWIW - when I had a Y membership I would just do a quick rinse off in my swimsuit (no soap - soap is SO drying, and the chlorine is SO drying, and then soap again at the end is just TOO MUCH for my skin) and then at the end if there was a shower that had a door I would strip down, but if there wasn't then I'd just take my shower in my swimsuit. I don't think it matters, I saw people do it with and without swimsuits, it is about what you feel the most comfortable with. And I know every baby is diferent, but Seedling LOVES showers, when I hold her in my arms and she can stick her hand out and try to catch the spray of water. We make a little game of counting to three and then I briefly stick her head under the water and then I laugh like "Isn't this SO MUCH FUN?!" and it keeps her from crying. I bet the girls will do fine, but it wouldn't hurt to try introducing it at home first. Also, check and see if you Y has a family changing room, that you and K could use with the girls? Just a thought.<br /><br />Also - your book idea sounds AWESOME. I don't think every author is conceited (although I'm sure that some of them are, just as some are not, just like in all professions) I would totally buy your book :)<br /><br />And I love that you guys are going to try to figure stuff out yourselves but I will 100% support you if you choose to see a counselor. I'm a pretty big proponent of seeking professional help. I had several counselors over the years when I've been in a bad place. Most have been awesome, a few were just so-so. But I have no regrets about ever saying "Hey, I need help please" :)<br />*HUGS!*Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com